So I dated this guy for over 4 years. We ended up breaking up about 5 months ago over a miscommunication during a disagreement we had. The way it happened, it seemed like such a big deal but we've talked about it afterwards and we both know it was not worth our relationship.
In the 5 months of our breakup, we have become very close. We have cleared up our miscommunication problem and have been open and honest about our feelings. We started talking about getting back together about 2 months ago. Neither of us have dated or are even "talking" to other people. I am so ready to start over. He's not. He says he doesn't have the time to put into a real relationship (since he works two jobs and attends college full-time). I feel that what we have now IS a relationship just without the titles. He doesn't seem to agree with that. He even made a point to promise me that we would get back together.
Since that promise was made, it was been a while and I grew impatient. One night about 3 weeks ago, I tried to talk to him about it and it didn't end well. He ended up saying he doesn't want to keep his promise anymore. Since then, everything has gone back to normal between us and we are happy again but I am still dying to be with him. You have to understand, the first time I met this guy I said I was going to marry him. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I'm almost willing to do anything for us to get back together. Problem is, I don't know what to do. I don't want to wait forever. How can I get him to get back with me? How can I make him see that what we have no is a relationship without titles? What can I do to get back with the love of my life? Help me
beast69e
(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
From his point he's probably thinking that with his busy schedule it's unfair to try and have a successful relationship with you...Try saying "Baby I know that your life is difficult right now to have a relationship, but I'll be waiting for you"....the reaction you should get is the one you should be looking for.
babydoll92987
(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
Breakups are hard. I'm going through one right now, and I don't know what to do with myself. I feel sick, can't stop crying, etc. I was only with my guy for about 10 months, but he told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and marry me and had so much hope for our future. Then he ended it because he feels that he needs to be himself for a while. My point being, I don't think you should wait around for him to realize how good you are for him, because if it never happens then you'll only put yourself through this again. He may be busy, but you always make time for the ones you love... I would wait it out and see what happens, but don't close your mind and heart off to other options. There may be someone better that you're passing up because you're waiting for someone you thought was the one. Trust your heart.
I think you have to take his words to heart and wait for him. If he's truly your soul mate, then it's worth the wait. He is telling you that if you get back together now, things will fail. Which is likely...you'll get frustrated with the lack of time he has and so forth even though he already told you he doesn't have time for a serious relationship.
I'd wait...months or even a year is not "forever". You can do it and it'll be worth it!
Yep - if he's truly the one then a few months or even longer isn't too long to wait. It sounds like now isn't the right time to try again. - More than a year ago
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(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
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