I've been talking to this guy now for a year. Not dating, just talking as in we both like each other and want to date. Well the first 8-9 months it was totally me just playing around having him as my back up plan in case other guys didn't work out. Now it's different because I really do care about him and like him more than you can explain. Well the last 3 months I feel like my head is being messed with. He only calls me on the weekends. He has told me before he still likes his ex-girlfriend so it's "hard for him." Text me that he doesn't care about me but when I ask him in person he acts like he never sent the text. It sounds to me like he's trying to look like a hard ass in front of all of his friends, but I can be wrong because I usually am about this stuff! Anyways recently I one weekend I was a little intoxicated and he told me he was going to pick me up from the bar. He never did, so I got mad, called him and told him he's a liar. Meanwhile when I'm on the phone with him a random guy walks by and says to me he's not worth my time because he saw me yelling. I responded back you're right, he's not. Well he heard me and got mad and everything so I told him we're done for good, no BS this time or anything. Well the next day I realized what I did, called him, he answered saying "Hello", I said "Hey", then I could have swore he said "Whats up?" and when I was saying "Nothing, you?" I'm guessing he hung up. I waited a min. 2 see if he would call back, but he didn't so I called him and left on my voice mail that I was sorry about everything, it was a long night, etc. I sent him a text later on too saying I was sorry about everything and I don't want things to be done. 9 Days went by until I finally called him! He didn't answer so I left him a message saying "Just seeing what's up, call me when you get a chance." He text me back a couple hours later saying "You called?" and I of course played the whole yeah what's up what are you doing tonight lines. He then told me he would be back to his house later on in the night and he wanted me to come over. So it was around 1am and I got the text saying he was on his way back to his place and he asked me if I wanted to come over. I said if you want me too, blah blah. Of course he had to be an A-hole and say what are we going to do if you come over? so I sent him back If you think you're going to have sex with me then I might as well not come over! He said Ok, have a nice night (Which implied to me he didn't want me to come over.) So I responded "You're never gunna have sex with me until we date so when you man up and ask me I'll give it up" He then replied back with Aww, Will you date me? So I said back Haha!!! (Thinking OMG really what an AZZ!) He sent me back he is serious and all the BS I'm not gunna buy. I didn't end up going to his house because it got to be to late but I told him to text me later in the week so we can hang out....Tell me what I'm doing wrong. Am I wasting time? WTF why is he doing this??
Stop calling him, texting him, all of it! See what HE does. A guy will move mountains to be with you if he's interested. You are too available for him. Guys want to chase the girls. You are making it too easy for him. I know it's easier said than done but you have to do this so you will know where you stand.If he does call after awhile and he will! He is going to wonder what happend to you.Don't answer the first time. Let him leave a message. If there is no message don't call him back until he leaves one. Act busy even if your not. Date other people too! Even if you don't like them. It will fill your time. This is hard to do I have done it but it does work if the guy cares about you.
I think you are wasting your time. Relationships are hard enough to keep together without going into one under such circumstances. If you can, just be friends with him. If not, even stop being friends with him so you can more effectively move on to a guy you are sure about from day one and who's sure about you. Good luck
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