Me and my boyfriend and I was in the middle of having sex and I said no. And I tried to push him off he counted. Is it rape or isn't because He's my bf?
Update: i feel like it is my fault because I am the one who started the sex.we have been going out sience the seventh grade we are a juinor now it has been four happy years. all but this.
3 months ago
It has been well ageed upon that when a girl says no and a guy continues then it is rape. Rape can even be charged between husband and wife if the husband forces himself on his wife. The difficulty is actually proving it in a court of law and it appears that you are in a situation like that. This is the reason that the majority of rapes are not charged or even convicted when it happens in a relationship.
I am not saying to you that a charge shouldn't be pursued because you know that you said no and he continued. He raped you. The police will be more informative about the possibilites of a charge being laid. If you have showered and/or some time has passed since the incident, then the possibility of conviction lessens as evidence of your story disappears and it becomes a he said/she said situation.
The rape is not your fault even if you initiated. When you say no then all activity should stop.
its rape its most definately rape its themost common rape in fact. now see if this happens again and if it does there's a problem. of course if he was hammered that could be why it happened and though it doesn't make it anymore right it is something you need to address in addition to the rape issue. once again try to discuss it and if he doesn't listen leave him. If he starts doing some weird stalking thing or something like that, seems to happen to a lot of girls I talk to, call the cops! Because there's probably something dagerous about this guy.
even if he is ur boyfriend he shd respect ur decision not to have sex.firstly that guy is jus probably using you for sex only.u shouldnt go with him anymore.secondly it is rape especially when you told him to stop and he still persisted.this is a complicated issue.think carefully b4 you do anything like tell ur parents.they'll probably call the police or call ur bf's parents.consider the consequences b4 you make a hasty decision
If you said, "No" in an extremely clear way, and he continued, then it is rape. Boyfriend or not doesn't matter, though the severity might appear less.
Well, you may have initiated it, but you also stopped it and he didn't. Are you sure he heard you? Did he think you were just moaning like, saying "no" but you really liked it? Also, it doesn't sound like this guy is a bad guy, I doubt he'd really ever want to hurt you. - 3 months ago
It doesn't sound like he's a bad guy? Sure, he basically raped his girlfriend but he's a nice guy! - 3 months ago
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He is a really nice guy we have had sex more than once. I did say stop and tried to push him off but nothing haddend - 3 months ago
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I guess you can either sit down with him and have a long talk about it, you could break up with him, or you could go to the police and talk to them.
And ALWAYSclassy, don't assume just because he did this he's automatically a bad guy, we haven't heard his story yet and you can't judge a persons character from just one action. Granted, what he did was very bad, I just think after a 4+ year relationship he probably cares enormously.
I could be ALL wrong, but I'm just playing devils advocate. - 3 months ago
No is No is NO. If he clearly heard you tell him "No" and he continued, then you were raped hun. And please don't dicount it's seriousness just because it was your boyfriend. You didn't wantto and he forced you. THAT constitutes rape. I am so sorry that happened to you, hun.
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