Did I cheat and should I get another chance with her?

i understand how your girl feels, my ex did the same thing to me, including the not telling her about me, only he brought her home with him! . ironically we had also been together for 2.5 years and things started getting difficult. I didn't break up with him because of it because he had an excuse, but as it turns out I should have. after several months of being "just friends" and hanging out he did sleep with her. a few times (in our bed). not saying that you would, but you never know what will happen. my ex swore up and down that he would never even consider sleeping with this girl because she was "sickly" and had seriously major issues, but he did anyways. just goes to show, the more you love the more you have to lose.

your biggest mistake was lying about it (not telling is just as bad as lying). I would definately give her some time to miss you. call just enough to show her you still love her, but not so much as to seem desperate.

on the other hand, if she was so quick to dismiss you, she may have been waiting for an excuse to get out. you did say that the last couple of months were tough.

You can make an attempt to call she has had a little bit of time to cool down and you could try going to see her unexpectedly too but if she makes it clear again that she doesn't want to talk your gonna have to just let it go but I think you have a good chance I am sure she misses you just as much and it would probably help you both out if you talk but if you do talk to her keep in mind you messed up and she has a right to be upset so let her tell you how she feels and comfort her about it reassure her she is the only one for you. good luck!

Ok you didn't cheat but you messed up... not by hanging out with another girl but by not making it known you had a girlfriend that's basically fairground for the other girl to think your open for anything. Plus you went to a bar and you were drinking etc etc anything could have happened and lets be honest some type of flirting was most likely going on.

Weather harmless in your book or not I'm sure you would of behaved differently had your girl been right there... then you didn't even tell her about it that gives us all the more reason to think you did do something cause you hid it and we found out otherwise which makes us look stupid and nobody likes that. So in a way you mentally cheated this is how

Would you have been ok with all this if the exact same thing happened but you found out your girl did it to you? before you do anything you need to ask your self would you be perfectly content if she did the exact same thing?*** and that's how you'll know what a compromising situation is... It's her decision to answer your calls or give you another chance you messed up keep trying but don't be too pushy if she doesn't come around in the next month then let her be... you've been with her long enough to know when she's hurt... give her the space but keep asking for forgiveness hopefully it will work out! good luck man!

You need to tell her that if she can't trust you, then your relationship is never going to work. Without trust, relationships don't usually work, & I've never really seen one that did without it. If you swore to her you didn't cheat on the girl you met, she should take it as that, & not second guess herself. Ha I need to talk to that girl! But just tell her that. & if she still doesn't believe you, well then there are two choices. Being with her & not having trust between each other, or breaking up, which would be really hard.

On what grounds is she basing her statement that "you cheated"? It doesn't sounds like you did anything wrong. Is she typically paranoid? If she's going to get this upset over something that doesn't have any basis, how rational is she about other things?

Dude it doesn't matter if you go to the same fast food restaurant or a bar at 12 AM. girls are gonna say that's cheating. just like what inlovewithtwo said "without trust there's nothing". If you haven't done much wrong for her to break up with you then maybe she was waiting on a reason to break up with you?

Give her time to understand what she has done. if you were the best boyfriend then she would start missing you very quick and want to come back. but there's also that chance that she's not gonna take that chance on her boyfriend being with another girl even if its just friends.