How to fix a broken idiot (GIRLS ONLY)?

Wow. How long have you guys been together? To be completely honest it's not about how your going to "fix" it because its already been done leaving a wound in her heart. The only band aid for her is "time" regardless however long she needs it to be whole again. You need to understand and own up to all the feelings that has been brought upon your girlfriend from your actions: hatred, betrayal, deep hurt, shattered esteem, and embarrassment. Its the most crappiest feeling in the entire world.

Keep in mind just because she forgives you does NOT mean she forgets. Its always going to hurt and as time goes by the hurt just becomes more bearable. As of right now she's freshly bruised with too many triggers that replay the truth but can't face. If you want to communicate with her you need to approach her with sincerity and feel guilty for introducing a sorrow she needs to overcome alone and the challenge to truly forgive- you for your actions, herself for the shame she feels when she looks in your eyes, and the bond she believed existed. If you are truly sorry it should hurt you a lot to see the person you say you love in grief where you will never want to put her in any form of heartache ever again or anyone you love in general. You have to seriously feel it not just say that your sorry because I guarantee there's zero empathy for you. All past happy memories of your relationships are now nightmares for her. Allow her to talk about it to you whenever she needs to. Listen to her pain when she expresses the disgust (you've translated that to "hatred") of your very well conscious judgment without becoming defensive, and let her look into your email, address books, etc. Whenever she feels like it-privacy is out the window. Any slightest hint or notion of secrecy would only put all your efforts and positive steps back to square one.

WELL... You must think why you CHEATED on her in the first place? She's the girl of your DREAMS, BUT ..... why did you go cheat on her???? Well.. Once a Cheater Always a Cheater. Another thing is I believe that there's a lot of things going through your girlfriend's mind now - wasn't I good enough?, did he look at her in the same way that he looks at me?, did he touch her like he touched me? why did he cheat on me?

What are you going to answer her, "Umm, I helped her out"? I don't understand how you guys can make such simple mistakes. You can't say you were drunk- lamest excuse ever. But if you really love her like you say you do, then you'll surely figure out HOW TO WIN HER TRUST BACK, NOT ONLY BECAUSE YOU'RE IN THE NONSENSE BUT BECAUSE YOU REALLY LOVE HER.. you must make her fall in love with you all ova again.. Take her out, walk past that girl you cheated with so that she can see you only used her maybe? I know how your girlfriend feels. I've been down that road a few times and believe me it isn't funny... but if you love her then you'll know what to do.. Good luck.

Do something to take her breath away. something that will say...I love you with my heart and I wouldn't want to share my life (or yourself) with anybody else. something out of a movie..desperate needs..calls for desperate measures.

Making it clear to her is a good start, but also explain to her that it was a huge mistake. You could even tell her why you did it, as long as it is something that would not hurt her even more. Tell her how much you love her and that you never meant to hurt her, that you will never hurt her again. Tell her that someday you would like to marry her, but aren't going to ask her as a way of apologizing. And, you should apologize for not telling her yourself after it happened.