Attention Women: Its time for a change?

Maybe you find the wrong type of women. There are many women who have similar thoughts.
1. I've seen and heard of many women who just aren't ready for a relationship and just do the hook up thing. Some are satisfied by it some aren't, some hope that it'll bring love to them and that's not a very plausible thought really.
2. Everyone will be attracted to other people during a relationship. Does that mean all will stray? No. Why is it that people cheat, if they want to be with other people then why not just be fair to the other person and set them free?
3. Many women are aggressive. Some need to be provoked first though 'til they are more comfortable.
4. Many women feel like giving flowers to a man will freak them out, it's a very feminine gesture of affection and a lot of men feel the same. We think men won't appreciate it like a woman does. I've given a flower before and didn't get much of a response.so really didn't know what to think. As for dinner, it depends on how old fashioned the other is. I start feeling guilty if I get dinner paid for me to much and I try to pay. A lot of women in the world today are very independent, used to providing for themselves. Some of them enjoy the fact that a man is wanting to spoil them a little bit, others fear losing the independence that way, and others are stuck in between the notions.

Younger women who have had it with loser boyfriends don't want to do anything on your list of questions because they want to respect themselves and not get tied up in drama by doing all of the things in your list of questions.. So, yeah, your question is kind of lame, sorry, "pickupman".

For number 4, aren't supposed to work for men. I don't mean that in a bad way I mean women want to know that they are gonna be with someone who can give them a good life and if the man doesn't pay it gives a negative effect towards women.

hope I helped! =]

I know how to solve your problem. BE very upfront about what you want and expect out of your dates from the get go. i.e, don't go after women who want commitment or feel sex is special believe me, there are plenty of loose gals out there who just want to party. You may be surprised, but I have met men who feel that sex is special too. As a woman, I pay for dates, open doors even car doors for men, and believe in equality coupled with courtesy. HOWEVER, I also wanted and always wanted a close romantic relationship, and I don't think that is wrong or something a woman should apologize for desiring. I didn't compromise and found a man who wanted the same thing. We are happily married ( for years) and have a beautiful daughter. Get my point. Instead of wanting ALL women to change for YOUR needs, find ONE woman who accepts them...

1. I've done that. In my experience, the guys keep thinking it's more. Although that is most likely my choice in guys...So it just depends on the two people. But I think, if they're compatible enough to do that, it's still pretty likely one or the other will start to feel like it's more.

2. You can definitely be attracted to different people. If I'm dating seriously, I want monogamy. But I'm certainly not going to tell a guy that he can't look at the supermodel walking down the street. On the other hand, I have a friend who has a couple of things going on. And as long as they both know (or all, depending on however there are), I figure it's all good. I just wouldn't go for it.

3. I just like being approached. I think it comes from the thing where I like having a guy be protective. I definitely can't speak for everyone else. Also, I try not to make it hard. But it makes you feel special, and a lot of women are insecure with men.

4. That, I can't help you with. Entitlement, maybe? I pay for stuff, unless a) the guy gets horribly offended if I do or b) has a significantly larger paycheck, in which case I'd still pay some, but not as much. And I think with the flowers, the feeling might be that the girl doesn't feel that the guy needs the reassurance that she still likes him/thinks of him? I don't like flowers, but I do like spontaneous other things. And I try to reciprocate that.

I think that the thing is with people, some people now have just been brought up like that, where the men should be the provider and this and that.

I believe that the main thing is how that person has been brought up.

#1 - Yes I agree on that, but see here is the problem, guys tend to talk and then they will say that your a slut because they just hooked up with you for one night, however they are also one but never say that.

#2 - If you are in a relationship and you're not a swinger this can cause problems, see the saying "it's okay for you to do it but not me" is true, guys will look at another female but if a woman looks at another guy it's different. It's have you slept with them or how do you know them.

#3 - I am very much agreeing on this one. I think it should be equal. I love being the aggressor. But again a woman has to feel good about herself to do this, if she has been cheated on or abused she doesn't feel that she is sexy enough for her man. With women on this it takes time to be the aggressor. But also you men and your ego too. You always think your in charge.

#4 - yes!!! See that's how I am, I get my man flowers and cards, sometimes I pay for dinner, take him out some night and he does the same. I feel that's a good way for a woman to feel like she is also in control of the relationship too. But so women have grown up with dads who say never pay for dinner, it's a man job to do that. My dad told me to do the same, but I didn't because I feel that if you let a guy buy you dinner all the time he is going to want something in return (sexual).

Im a guy so ill try and help you out here, first off women don't hook up to hook up because if they do they will be regarded as a slut as for a guy we hook up with as many women and don't care about , we are called players and ladies men, therefore you rep is you know how to get women in bed some like it some don't. We want women to leave right after one night stands because we don't want to see them again, women some get into one night stands but others want relationships so they don't feel used and or like a whore.
2. Men are attracted to multiple women because we are looking for the right one, women do this too keep in mind, they will go on dates with lots of guys doesn't mean they'll sleep with them though but they are also looking for someone who suits them and are attracted to.
3. Women aren't the aggressors because that's the mans job to do, they don't want a whiney push over they want a man to take control trust me on this one.
4. Women have in their mind that the guy should take care of them and to most this is expected, some women don't pay for dinner cause they want a free meal others will actually offer if its a first date always pay for dinner , it makes you look good. On the flowers issues what guy do you know that would want flowers, we would be like wow thanks babe and then we would do nothing with them and tell our friends she gave me flowers.

1. Alot of women do this (just about every older women will have a one night stand or purely sexual relationship story if you ask them)

2.Dude, many women date multiple guys. Many women cheat too. On the other hand, there are many reasons a women might stay monogamous. I think women unconsciously are attracted to security, so if they know a guy (are with him for a while in a relationship) they know all the risks involved with that guy (all his strengths and weaknesses, "what kind of guy" he is. No surprises). Versus being with a new guy and you don't know what new mysterious problems come with him. The saying "Better the devil you know, than the devil you don't" applies here. Also women form many emotional attachments to things in a relationship, so when those old feelings come back (they hear a special song, or look at pictures of good times) they may have a hard time leaving. Its comfortable and secure.

3. Men are naturally the pursuers because we have more testosterone which increases sex drive and aggression. We also peak earlier sexually. Women run the risk of getting pregnant, men have no risk (meaning they don't carry it) so it makes women more cautious. It is also to the womens advantage for a women to let a man do most of the work in early courting so they can read you and see how they feel about you. Women also have the risk of being in physical danger if they didn't take time to read a man, (most men don't really fear abuse or rape when they meet a strange women, women do.)

I heard a male talk show host say to a female guest one day "Why is it men are always auditioning for women? Why can't they audition for us more often?" The woman replied "If a man wants me to carry his baby for nine months, have labor, and experience the emotional roller coaster of taking care of a baby. He should pass my audition." - This is very true.

4. Alot of how we act is based on biologically making sure we have healthy children who survive for the species. Women are looked at based on thier health to be potential mothers (this is why healthy long hair, nice breasts, waist to hip ration are 'hot' to us). Men are looked at to protect the family and provide food and security for them. If women only got with hot men, who had no financial security and didn't protect them, the kids might not have money for food, shelter and the family may die from no security. Alot of this is subconscious in men and women, it is built in our genes for survival.

Alot of women do bring flowers, gifts and pay for dinners (my experience was a give and take one). Ask people who work at bars or restaurants if they see it, they will tell you all the time.