Can Guys and Girls be just friends?

Here's the deal -

I'm guessing most guys will tell you no, or a qualified no, and girls will say the opposite. I've done some canvassing on this myself.

My own feeling is this: There is always some subtle sexual tension that makes the character of these friendships different. But it CAN and often does remain a stable friendship without any expression of that tension.

Here my opinion, yes, guy and girls can just be friends. But at one point in time it may be too soon, too late, or just at a bad time or forever. I heard that somewhere. It's totally true. =]

Many thoughts on this. I am a 44 year old woman dating a 44 yr. old divorced twice man. In short we met through a mutual friend, hit it off quickly and had been inseparable for about the 6 months. Then as if a light switch was turned off out of the blue I started to get the dreaded gut-feeling. You women out there know exactly which feeling that is...the one where you just know something isn't right OR that quite possiblly your man has done something with another woman. Well in my case, I quickly realized these feelings I was having were not wrong (are they ever girls?). I found out that he was continuing to have what now seems is a very emotional relationship with his, still not yet, ex wife! The more nauseating part of this is that she left him, and his emotionally disturbed daughter moved far away and is now being his emotional (and his daughters), best friend! He keeps claiming that they are just friends but he went from answering his phone calls in front of me to now oddly enough, just not getting any from anyone when we are together. He claims that when he is with me he doesn't take calls because he wants all of his focus for me...what crap! In addition, when I confronted him if he has seen her since we have been together, he said yes, but just to go over the divorce business. Prior to her leaving, they had been married less than 1 year, they share no children together and the divorce is uncontested, so how much paperwork is there and for goodness sake....TELEPHONE! I have always been understanding about both men and women being friends to a certain degree until it becomes hurtful or disrespectful, as in my case. After this experience, I am changing my stand on that. I don't think that two people can or should remain friends. In my case it is/has ruined a wonderful loving and what was once very trusting relationship and turned it into a secretive, painful search for answers and a huge broken heart.

I used to have a crush on a guy and nothing ever happened because he didn't act on it. We're best friends today and we talk to each other about everything. His girlfriend and I even get along like sisters.

I also confessed my feelings to one of my guy friends recently and it was awkward for a while until I told him that I wanted us to be friends more than anything and that just because I had grown feelings didn't mean it had to ruin our friendship. I told him being friends meant more to me than our friendship falling apart because of any awkwardness and we worked everything out.

I think it really depends on the person. If you're too flirty it can sometimes be hard to be friends with the opposite sex. Or vice versa.. it may be hard for you to be friends with someone of the opposite sex who is too flirty. You have to respect boundaries.

You can be friends with the opposite sex. Most of my friends are guys, and there are no problems.

It is possible especially if they both have known each other for awhile and they both are absolutely clear that it won't be anything more. It also helps to share everything with each other because eventually they end up like brother and sister and it eliminates any other emotions.

Yes- Totally! I have several male friends, four of which are my best friends and three out of the four have NEVER crossed the line of friendship. Granted they treat me like one of the guys, it's relaxing to be able to hang out and get perspectives from the opposite sex without the pressure of looking drop dead gorgeous in the home.

They're also good wingman for an unsuspecting jerk, they're my second line of defense because I've known them for years. One (and only one of the four) is my ex and long story short we're still friends. He even is engaged with a girl I think is good for him. I've have a friend that is like my best friend, kinda like my brother, and something like my boyfriend- which is really tricky. Enter, "Friends w/ Benefits" , and if I said it was easy and possible to have w/o having some kind of emotion towards the other person I'd be lying. Speaking from experience friendship is still there, but so are other aspects and it's certainly work to keep them apart and remain in the friendship zone. But the simple answer to your question is yes.

I have friends like that and one in particular. He isn't ready to make any sorta commitment to me or anyone right now but we are still friends, have been and probably always will be. We call,flirt, and care about each others' thoughts and what's going on in each others' lives. Even though we both have become more than "just friends" on a few occasions and unfortunately for me he isn't ready to commit to a relationship I know that I can call him if I need his help with anything and he'd be there for me and vice versa. There's always going to be a period of feeling awkward when feelings get involved. If people are true friends before anything else happens whether it's feelings or sexual intimacy than you can overcome the "little" discrepancies.. Yes it is possible.

I would say yes, t is possible for men and women to me friends. However I would have to say that every man and women who has a friend of the opposite sex will be attracted to that person at one time or another, whether the friend knows about it or not.

Yes definitely! Guys and girls can be friends. You can tell if you are friends or more than that. There has to be a physical and sexual attraction to be more than friends, and if you don't feel that, then you should stick with being friends.

If one of the friends develops feeling for the other, you should sit down and talk about it. After all they are your friend, and will listen. There might be a bit of a shock, for the friend that is being liked by the other one, but if they talk, then yes they can still be friends.

Yes to friends after being broken up too. I was going out with a guy for a while, then we broke up. We were best friends..my ex boyfriend was my best friend! I never would have thought that though, cause we fought all the time while we were together, but got along great when we were broken up!. But it also depends on the situation, like if your gf/bf cheated on you then I wouldn't see them stay friends after that. But other than that, I don't see why you can't be friends.

I hope this helped

I would say definitely yes. Friendship depends on the personality of that friend.
Some people can handle hang out with each other after a break-up and then again some can't.
It all depends on that someone.

I'd say yes. I have lots of guy friends. Sometimes they have wanted it to be more, but if I make it clear that I'm not interested (but in a not-bitchy kind of way), we've always stayed close. Also, I'm definitely friends with some of the guys I've dated, one of whom is a really good friend.

The short answer would be NO! The long answer is depends on the level of friend. Someone you see everyday and talk to all the time and tell all your secrets to. That would be a NO, he want to sleep with you but just too much of a wimp to act on his feelings.

If it's a guy you see very once in a while and he is friends with all your other friends and you don't spend too much time alone then Yes, a possibility but I still have my doubts. If he is gay then it would be YES!

If you're attracted to the person than I would say a friendship isn't possible...or at least it won't remain a friendship for a long period of time. Sooner or later somebody is gonna want more. It's actually pretty easy to be friends afterwards but it may take a little time after the breakup. I would say that a post breakup friendship could last longer except for the one variable.........the new girlfriend. Once you get a new girlfriend than good luck trying to explain to her that your ex or ex's are just your friends. That won't fly.