I have been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we both don't want to hurry anything. I use a form of birth control that is not the pill (diaphragm). However I try to abstain from having sex at all when it's the easiest to get pregnant (those few day when I'm ovulating, Sorry for being gross).
Last week we slept together (I had my birth control in place) but it ended up being a day that I was supposedly ovulating. Now granted I was wearing the diaphragm, but I was so freaked out, I took the Morning After Pill just in case.
I told him what happened and he asked why I would take the Morning After Pill if I was already using something that was supposed to work. I said to be extra safe. I'm afraid that by telling him, all he thought was, "I got her pregnant. She's supposed to know when she can't have sex. This is way too fast for me."
He said that one slip up is a major thing. I was only trying to do the right thing but I'm afraid he's so freaked out and not trusting of me, that he doesn't want to see me anymore. we haven't really talked this week and he's been distant.
What do I do? Was I not supposed to tell him? I really like him and I thought he liked me. It's just so soon in the relationship. What should I say to him the next time we talk? How should I act? Any feedback would help. Thnx guys.
You didn't do anything wrong. In fact, it appears you were very honest with the guy. You're not pregnant, and not going to get pregnant after taking the pill....if he's having an issue with this then it's his problem not yours. Don't read too much into his reaction though.
In some ways I think you acted a little over drastic about the situation. Yes you have to be protective of yourself of not getting pregnant. But in the manner in which you did it may or may not have freaked him out. Using a diaphragm is sometimes the best way but it leaves worries in your mind and wonder about what time your going to be ovulating. Just go on the pill and save yourself the trouble. If you want have him use a condom. Thats what they're there for.
I won't say that was any major slip up it happens to the best of us, you may just have prolonged the situation more so than you should. You don't have to feel scared or wonder about what he's going to think or say, just tell him how you felt and you got scared and you're not ready to have a kid yet. Not everytime you have sex hampers you into having a baby, you just have to be more mature about the situation and talk more frequently about your experiences. The same way you used the Morning-After Pill is the very same way you can take the pill and save yourself all those worries and stresses and have a wonderful and fun life together.
My advise, take the pill and have fun with your sex life and stop all that worrying. It grows on you when you worry too much.
but I don't know for sure yetmy boyfriend came in me last night [and he cums A LOT]so how long do I wait before I take a test, my period isn't until...
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When: 11 months ago
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