Long distance relationship Should we agree to have outside sex partners?

You don't love each other if you need someone else. You 2 should just end it.

It's good that you've come the realization that long-distance relationships don't work, but your kind of thinking is messed up in so many ways. Since when can you separate love and sex like that?

As a guy I totally agree with ladylush all it shows the guy is that can he really trust you when you are together, because whether he says he's ok with it or not, he's not ok with it inside. He will always wonder, is she faithful? Deep down you will do the same, and as other users said it will end up ruining what you do have. If you want to pursue other guys do so, decide what you want to do and stick to that decision. If you don't all you stand to do is hurt others and yourself in the process.

If it means that much to you, more than your interpersonal relationship with one another I TOTALLY agree with the other gentlemen you don't have much of a true relationship to begin with. But if you do decide to walk away be prepared for it to be permanent. It won't be something reversible. A decision must be made. Not that it matters but in my opinion I'd stick by him, give him a chance and be faithful, sex is sex. That's why god gave you a hand and toys. Be patient, and maybe just maybe if you work to be with that person, something bigger than sex will come from your devotions. But that's just my .02 take it for what it's worth.


AlPiNe~

I don't think it will even work if you guys are talking about seriously doing it. I say invest in a good power tool and have sex over the phone. Take a vacation and meet in the middle. Talk about anything sexual with him, but I wouldn't think that any man, in the back of his mind, is okay with the idea of the love of his life being satisfied sexually with another man.

If you are having ''sex partners on the side'' it is not much of a relationship. That will ruin everything.

That is never a good idea. Sex is something that when shared between two people emotions also follow. If you agree to that now who is too say you will so easily get over it later when you are more commited? Also sounds like the relationship you are describing with the sex partner on the side sounds more friends then even distant lovers. Another person in your lives will only create more distance between the two of you. If you can not deal with out the sex and plesuring yourselves then break up because out of that scenario hurt is the only thing that is sure to follow eventually.

Depends on your mentality--some people swing and have solid relationships--but it takes a mind set the average person doesn't have. if you can deal with it fine--if it gets you off fine--some people are kinky like that. But I think the reality is, nine times out of ten, you will only be hurt and the relationship will end.