4 year old relationship with 2 year old baby called it quits it has been six months he want to get back together and make things work we both have been with other people sexually. I agreed to get back and try agian then come to find out on day 3 of us being back together some female text him asking if he wants her on top and he text back I want to hit it from the back? so yes I confronted him he said he was board at work how stupid does that sound. so he text her and says him and I got together worked things out and we are a family agian she told him she was happy for him and take care. but I have had a knot in my stomach all night can't eat can't stop thinking of him having sex with this girl. not to mention 2 years ago I cought him in bed with a other female and still took him back after that. I know I am a pretty lady don't understand what more he wants? and know I am unsure if I want to take him back now? what to do ?
He wants the freedom to sleep with whomever he wants to while being in a relationship with you. It doesn't sound like something you can give him. Even if he loves you and wants to make it work, he can't keep his pecker in his pants. Having lost you already, what else can you do to drive the point home that you want him to be faithful? It doesn't sound like he is willing to change. The only reason he discontinued his relationship with the "back door" girl is because you caught him. Not because he felt it was the right thing to do. That right there should tell you what kind of relationship to expect from him. You have to catch him for him to stop. It's easy for me to sit here on my big housewife ass and tell you to leave him. But what are your other options? You can stay and be suspicious of his actions 27/7. You can monitor his emails, check his texts messages, call all unfamiliar numbers back. You can smell his clothes, follow him around, even hire a private investigator to see if he is still faithful. How is that going to make you happy? We chose the ones we love because we expect a standard of happiness to come from the relationship. Where's yours? You'll be so busy trying to catch him cheating that your happiness will have to come from falling to sleep at night, just to get away form your suspicious thoughts. The only one who sounds happy here is your playboy husband. He'll have his cake and eat it too. He'll find lots of ways to cheat - if you stay with him he'll gain all the experience he'll need from sneaking around on you. It isn't you that makes him cheat. You can be the most loyal, loving, faithful woman. Whatever the problem is, it's his. There are plenty of men out there who will be faithful. Don't let his cheating affect how you think about yourself. He would cheat on ANYONE - not just you. My big housewife ass thinks that you deserve much, much better than this. Good luck and be strong.
Wow your words are right on point if he really wanted things to work he would of told her right then that we got back together instead of texing her he wants to hit it from the back.. my stomach turns when I think of the way he was talking to her or even thinking of what he wants to do.really I don't feel happy with him I have noticed these days we have nothing to talk about only about our daughter. maybe my feelings have changed for him over these months. - More than a year ago
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You're trying and he is not. The relationship is unbalanced - are you going to continue carrying the burden of keeping the two of you together? The sad thing is, he probably does love you, in his own twisted way. I hope as time goes by, he straightens up for you - being the father of your daughter, you guys are going to be involved somehow for the next 15+ years. Good luck - I wish you the best. - More than a year ago
Why would you stay with someone who cheated on you once, and didn't change his ways? He's talking to a girl about sexual positions!
Cheating isn't about you. If you treat him like a dog he'll cheat. If you treat him like a king he'll cheat. Cheaters usually find weak, insecure girls who will tolerate cheating.
I am not insecure I am hot lol... and I think he mistakes my kindness for weakness. but I am going to try it for a week and see if this huntch goes away if not then I have to tell him I don't want to be with him and he don't make me happy any more that I know he will not expect to hear but that will be real. - More than a year ago
hey honey, what ever did you do? did you stay or leave? im in similar situation, only difference is that we don't have any kids, just dogs we share.. im straggling with this everyday...your story came close to home..hope to hear bk from you..
The best I can tell you is do what you are heart feels.. since then we have been reall good he did cut off all the girls changed his number and we just bought a house we have no fighting even though I really had my douts at first it all worked out have a little faith and a little trust. hope every thing works out for guys god bless... - 6 months ago
That the thing is we had been broken up for 6 months just this past thursday we got back . but I have been thinking and maybe we don't need to get back together cause I don't feel happy with him I think my feelings have changed for him over the break up. - More than a year ago
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Ah he sounds like a bad apple. Please, I think for your sake, you should get someone who's more committed, so he can make you feel secure and safe, and help take care of your baby etc. It's not nice being in a relationship where you're always suspicious of whether your man is going off with a another woman or not. There has to be trust in the relationship or it won't work. If you don't trust him, then leave him and get someone you can trust and love
Girl I think my feelings have changed for him over the 6month break up. maybe this knot is just telling me not to do it cause you are right I don't want to be wondering if he messing around. - More than a year ago
He was board. LOL! Then he should have been texting you. That is no excuse. Leave him. Once a cheat always a cheat especially when they know they can get away with it time and time again.
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