If you're busy (say self employed), but you "make the time" for the girlfriend, Should it offensive if I put it that way to her?
I figured that "If something" (whatever it may be) is important enough, you'll make the time.
My buddies appreciate when I hang out with them and they know that I could be doing something "more constructive" (we all can). But when I've mentioned that I made the time for a friend in need, they get extremely angry about the idea. "I shouldn't have time made for me, I should just have that time already."
So is the concept of "making time" offensive to other women? And why is that?
I agree. Phrasing is totally wrong in this situation. I'm a woman so let me explain what she's thinking when you say "make the time." She feels that you feel you could be doing something a thousand times better then being with her at the time and that your unwillingly hanging with her out of obligation. Women like to feel needed and appreciated and when you use words like 'make the time" it makes her feel like she's not needed or appreciated by you and is really being a bother. I know that's probably not how you feel but we're women and our lives revolve around emotion. Instead of using words like "make the time" try replacing that with "spending quality time" or "taking time out for you." Hope this helps.
I agree. Women most often feel as though they are the most important, top priority, on their significant other's list. When something is worded incorrectly, it is most often taken out of context. Relationships often have bad communication problems. - 8 months ago
I don't think there is any difference between the phrase "make time for you" and "taking time for you" Both means that you sacrifice the time for something else and making more time for her. It could be the tone, or how you carry the message to her, that might have ticked her off.
I would think that she'd rather you have more free time, so you guys can do anything at your leisure, without you having to make or take time for her, thus making her feel bad, or undervalued. She might be distressed, because she is using up your time.
I think you have to phrase it better. So to speak, your "priorities are in order, with your lady at the top and friends beneath that, although maybe sometimes the time doesn't always get devoted to them in the proper order."
As for the time being already there, that can also be looked at as duty, or, as Kant would put it, "Duty. Sublime and mighty name that embraces nothing charming or insinuating but requires submission." And having to do something isn't as thoughtful as choosing to do it.
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