Does my co worker like me for more than just a friend?

With how well you seem to know him I would say just ask him point blank. Now listen to this part carefully, this is where women make the biggest mistake when dealing with men most of the time- Don't go into this conversation as if it's a big deal. Guys HATE the line "We need to talk" or "I want to talk" because it translates into "You are going to hate the next two hours." Keep a friendly tone and bring it up just as if it were any other topic. Yes, we are guys, but we do know where a topic is serious.

When guys talk we don't tend to talk differently with one another when a topic is serious because there's no point in adding more stress too it. You could be eating, steer the conversation in the direction of the two of you and then just say, "What would you think of the two of us getting together?" and treat it as 1/2 normal conversation and 1/2 joke. With a guy this kind of approach shows us that if we say yes, then great and if we say no, then it's not going to be enough to ruin the friendship or be a big enough deal that we have to worry about feelings being hurt. Just don't be overly serious about it. I hope this helps.

Don't be subtle. Guys hate subtle because it usually leaves us confused. Tell him you would like to make a go of it since there is a chance for it to go somewhere now.

He told you why. He said he dosen't want to be with you because you work together and you initiated the hook up. If you get in a relationship and things turn sour, that could make things awkward and strain things at the workplace. You guys are friends, things are going good (read: no pain, awkwardness, or drama). You both agreed to leave it only as friends after the hook up, so I think he feels if things aren't broke why fix it?

He also said he couldn't be in a relationship because you initiated the hook up. Now this may or may not be going on in his mind, but when you are the guy who takes another man's woman that is one kind of feeling. When you are in a relationship and another man is taking yours, that's another. You initiated it, so I guess he thinks if things are going poorly with him, you will initiate another hook up with another man. He didn't initiate the affair, you did. So it's not other men he has to worry about, it's you. How can he trust you to be loyal? If this is so, then there is no way you can earn his trust on this.

I say tell him how you feel , and accept what he says. If he wants a relationship, good. If he just wants to be friends (he technically has done nothing wrong to you, this stuff has been your choice), be friends or move on if you feel like you are wasting time.

I think he likes you more than a friend but not as much that he would be your next boyfriend. And again, this is an answer based on the generalities of men's behavior but he seems that he was into the fun and the flare of the moment, as most other men would have. Once it was said and done with, the excuse was that you worked in the same place and you couldn't take it any further. And now that you are divorce, or just about to, I can guess his next move. 'It will be too obvious that you divorced him to be with me', even though that might not be the case. He will try other tactics and reasons to keep you at an arm's length but it won't get any closer than that. I say, ditch him..

Interesting situation----the fact that he says that he couldn't be in a relationship because you work together throws a red flag. If this was really true, then why did he sleep with you to begin with? From his physical behavior maybe he just wants to have a physical relationship, but is hard to say cause you also say that you are always in constant contact. Why not simply confront him and ask him where this relationship stands? It seems to me that you're old enough to directly address the issue and not play games. To be fair to you, I think that is very hard to tell what's really going on in this situation, so you might just have to bite the bullet and confront him with it. If you're scared of doing this, then there is something wrong with this relationship... :)