I've been really good friends with this guy for about 2 years now, to the point I'd consider him a best friend. He knows my secrets and vice versa. I've helped him through rough times and he's open with me. He's done the same for me. He comes to my house and just hangs out. Has dinner with my family, visits my grandparents, has become friends with my brother and sister. About 2 months ago at a party, liquid courage got the better of both of us and we ended up having sex. You'd think it'd make things weird. Not at all. Still acts the same and everything. Calls every day at 2pm to wake me up and checks periodically though out the night. I've tried to distance myself a bit as he is moving soon. I'm used to being at his house all the time and just spending free time with him. I'm already afraid I've gotten too close and I'm afraid that with him moving, I'm going to end up severely hurt. My distancing hasn't worked so well. He calls more and even stopped by unannounced the other day.
Last night I went to his brother's house to hang out. Everybody else left and went home and left us in the basement alone. Things were fine for a while and then he kissed me. I ended up going back to his house with him and once again had sex. I got up to leave and go home and he grabbed my hand and asked me to stay. Which I did. We stayed there in his bed for hours and just talked. I feel stuck. I don't know what I have or what to do. On one hand I'd love to be with him but at the same time, I'm afraid if I say anything I'll ruin a really good friendship. I don't know what he wants either. Any ideas?
If I was in your shoes I would talk to him,tell him how you feel about this whole thing and ask him if he knows what you should do,then he might have something in mind.
You need to tell him this. If you don't you could ruin both a good friendship and a potential love. Also, how about taking it slower, this sounds more like sex buddies. Ask him for a real relationship because you care about him and don't want a fling.
I was almost in the same situation, in a strange way.
But I understand. You need to talk to him and see what he wants out of the relationship you both share. Whether it is just a friendship, or the beginning of a relationship. If you don't you will just be hurting yourself.
Your situation is kind of hard because you are going to be hurt either way.. Unless he isn't moving too terribly far. (Or you considered moving with him, since you two have known each other for a long time and seem to get along so well.)
Just be careful, think things through, and be open with him about your feelings like you have been this whole time about other subjects.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 11 months ago
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