What to do?

I am in a similar situation and am interested in how you handled or are handling the situation.

"He is very religious and also cares very much what people think." Think about that statement for a moment and see if you can figure out where this will probably end up.

It sucks that once you are married that your feelings for other people don't just turn off.

A lot of people in your situation (and there are) usually find out that it is not so much that they are attracted to the other person, but more so, something that the other person provides. Perhaps they give you more attention than your spouse, or they like the same movie (food, clubs, venues, etc), or perhaps, after 6 years of marriage, you are simply invigorated by the 'chase.'

Whatever it is, it would do you well to sit down, and really look at yourself and this 'relationship' to see what it is that is really exciting you. You may find that there is something in your marriage that isn't there that you wish was, and if that is the case, then work on filling that void with your relationship with your husband.

I would say, that there probably is no way to stop feeling how you do, so the best advice is to stop talking to him, stop seeing him, and stop being around him. If that means changing jobs and moving, then so be it. Otherwise you both may do things that will destroy your marriages and that you will regret for the rest of your lives. What is worse, is you may find that you do all of that over lust, or simply strong 'summer love.'

I wish you the best of luck and would also advise that you talk to a marriage counselor (by yourself or even with your spouse).

Wow! I agree with Genesis5 I think a lot more people are in this situation than not. I have found myself in this situation more than once. I thought we fixed what was wrong with us but we fell easily back into the boring rut and now look what happened. I recently started having feelings for a married coworker who was noticing me too. We know there is chemistry, we can't walk away from it and we have begun to get very friendly and flirtatious with each other. I know that this will eventually lead to something else and it's very clear that both he and I are lacking something in our marriages that we find with each other. I love the excitement of something new and I'm sure he does too or he would have had nothing to do with me by now. Hmmm. the only way out of it is to really let go of what you're holding onto with him. Turn back to your spouse and tell them that you really need to work on things. The first time this happened to me I cried for weeks but I had to cut it off cold turkey and walk away 100%. We worked on our marriage but obviously not well enough. Good luck to you.as you can see I'm beyond repair.