My girlfriend and I have been together for about 4 months now. Things were going perfect the whole time until about a week ago when suddenly she had a change in feelings about our relationship. She told me she loved me after 6 weeks and I have met her family and everything so I began to set myself up to be with this person for a while.
Now she has told me she is not sure if she loves me or not. I don't want to lose her, while at the same time I don't want to pressure her to feel like she has to give me an answer now. Is it good to take a break and have limited contact? I just need some advice from anyone who has been in a situation such as this.
Update: I agree 6 weeks is fast, normally I would probably get uncomfortable with it but something was different this time, so that is why this is a rougher situation.
9 months ago
I think maybe you should give her some space, you both do probably need it I agree with lisamarie. if she truly ever did love you she will be thinking of you and will call you. if not, you deserve better =]
My ex boyfriend pulled this same stunt. After three months of dating he told me that he wasn't sure if he loved me anymore. I gave him space and a month after our break up he said that he still loved me but it was too late for me then. At the beginning of a relationship everything is new and so some people base love on how they "feel" at the time. Once the butterflies and newness wears off then they start doubting if it was love. Sometimes its infatuation and sometimes it is love. I would give her space and let her decide. But you have to think if you really want to be with someone who is always doubting her feelings and bases her love on how she feels. Good luck either way to you. :)
Well there's no set rules on when to say the "L" word, but I'm sure most will agree that you can never truly know a person after only 6 weeks weeks. And Lust is often confused with Love. I think you guys may of moved a little to fast, it works for some people but not everyone. Maybe she's a little freaked out and she may need a little time to decide if she's as serious about you as she thought. But don't let her string you along!
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