So, I've been with this guy for 4 months. He is 4 years older than me. So we started going out in august and that was when like everything was about me we went place and had fun. Now its December and it just seems like he's kind of distancing himself. I'm not the only one who noticed my friend did as well.. He just doesn't seem the same.
He barely ever calls me I always have to call him, and he usually is like can I call you right back? and he either never calls or calls 2 hours later. Another thing is I get jealous but so does he. He always gets hit on at work and I absolutely hate it. And when we drive by one of the girls he brightens up and is like " Hi Ashley" they talk real quick and we leave and then all of a sudden he's like " Shes awesome" its like wtf? and when he finally realizes I'm pissed off he's asks why I tell him and he's like no she's awesome at her job its like okay whatever.
And then he use to get called by this girl Kathy all the time. And he told me she stalked him and that he never wants to talk to her again and I should tell her that. So I did. I was looking through his recent calls yesterday and one of his calls he made was to her. He claimed that she called and left a message so he wanted to call her back. When he never usually calls her back and he barely checks his messages maybe once every few months. Then that girl tells me that he's been over there every night with her and that he said he broke up with me.
And then someone told me he hooked up with some girl at a party. I just get so pissed and he denies it all because people talk shit. but then he lies about little things to me. The other day I was like oh are you on your way home from work and he's like yeah. and then like 2 minutes later I hear dennis say hi to me. So he wasn't on his way home he was out with his friends I don't even know what they were doing. So I mean if he's going to lie about little things why wouldn't he lie about big things. And I'm scared because I don't want anything to happen. There is also a huge chance I'm pregnant. And I couldn't do it on my own now way what so ever. I'm 16 and I might be pregnant because he doesn't wear a condom or he just doesn't even pull out anymore. He doesn't care. I mean wtf am I suppose to do with a kid I mean I don't think I could get an abortion id feel guilty but what if he left me with a kid. So this is why I get scared and paranoid about everything. But I don't what is going on with him. What do you think he doing and what's going to happen?
First off you need to talk to someone you trust. By reading your question it sounds like you have a lot things you need to get out. Your boyfriend needs to grow up and start taking responsibility for his actions. He is cheating on you and you just need to admit that to yourself. you have another option about the baby, you can always put it up for adoption. If you are pregnant. By the sounds of it he is not ready and I think that you just need to break up with him and stop being treated like this. you are also doing this to yourself by staying with him so if you would get rid of him. it will hurt but you will feel better in due time and you are still young. it only gets better later in life. so think about that stuff and see what happens. good luck hope everything works out.
Thanks. I don't know it's just hard for me to like actually believe that it could be happening. But I think I am going to talk to him tomorrow and see how everything goes from there. but thank you for the help you made me feel a lot better. =] - 11 months ago
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When: 11 months ago
Ok. He sounds like a complete asshole. He could be cheating on you or may not. He may just like the attention from other girls. But from what I can see he may just be using you. I'd definitely brake up with him. And having sex without a condom..just say no.
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When: 11 months ago
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