I've been dating him for 4 months now. I found out yesterday, on christmas eve that he cheated on me a little more than a month ago with some girl he claimed he was just friends with. I waited till he got home and I confronted him about it, of course he automatically denied it and said he'd never cheat on me, but I finally got it out of him. He was mad at me and jealous I was hanging out with another guy and my friends so he went and watched a movie with her and they kissed.
I don't know what to do, because I love him so much and I know he loves me. He told me I deserve so much better but he'd do anything for a second chance. I have to see him tomorrow, all his things are at my house, he was going to stay with me. Help me, I don't know if I should stay with him or leave him. I couldn't just x him out of my life, if I left him we'd still be close friends but I know that'd be really hard for the both of us, especially if one of us moved on and got a gf or bf.
They went to see a movie and just kissed? That's it? I am not downplaying the fact that he did that but still seems much lighter than what you would usually think cheating is these days.
Break up with him. He's demonstrated that you can't trust him. He lied and cheated on you. You don't need the heartache of always wondering and worrying about him. Find someone else, and move on!
If you had to drag it out of him that he cheated, How many more times are you willing to do this? And not just about other women, How many other questions does he answer of yours with "beat around the bush answers?" If he knows you deserve better... THEN why would he wrong you like that? Did he have to wrong you, and you had to drag it out of him- to realize that you deserve better?
And for you to be supposed "friends"- that's messed up.
Friends- watch each other's back. They help out when another friend is in a jam. You were in a jam, you didn't know what was going on, and he wasn't being a friend. He might have thought he was... BUT HE WASN'T. What if the person that he cheated on you with "had gotten around" if you know what I mean... and you do know what I mean. How is that fair to your safety?
I would use that ambition you had to discover the truth, use that to push yourself away from this nuisance. Thats what he is now... is a nuisance, I wouldn't trust him. I wouldn't want to talk to him more than I have to.
And I can tell that it seems like you were looking down the road, maybe, with this guy. Please, don't get caught up like that, you're better than that -AND HE EVEN ADMITTED IT- Let lying dogs lie right where there are, and you move on with your life. Start making this a Merry Christmas for you! I would take the stuff you were going to give him and when tomorrow comes... return it and make yourself happy with buying something nice for yourself. It's the least you can do.
You don't know anything about love. If you guys trying making each other jealous, that is IMMATURE! Im not trying to be rude to you or to him but it isn't whats supposed to happen! If it was trust me, he would NEVER cheat on you, and you wouldn't want to be with any other guys. Im sorry, he doesn't love you.
I have read, quite a few times on here, about wanting to find true love at such a young age (or feeling someone had met 'the one' and thus didn't want the relationship to end despite the fact...
I used to feel guilty about having 'bad' thoughts about other women after I had a permanent relationship...and even while dating on a steady basis, before that. But with the wisdom of maturity I have...
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 11 months ago
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