I mean, if you liked a girl, but are ONLY friends. She wants more and has told you. You have flirted with her, smiled and laughed with and at her, kept eye contact with her, called her a few times, know her family, and she knows yours, hung out many times, got her a Christmas gift she had to open RIGHT AWAY, and you ALWAYS give her hugs when ya see her and when you leave from seeing her, been touchy feely with her, and even have had sex with her a few times.
Would you say something around the fact of 'My girlfriend likes this too.." about something I like, that a girl they've been friends with does too, when I never knew they had a girlfriend?
BUT when I knew they were hanging with the other girl, and the other girl being an old friend who's married and has a kid? AND after I gave them a kiss along the cheek, and then way later on during the day they go back to being flirty and then giving me a kiss on the cheek and then trusting me with something they never trust ANYONE with?
People were around when he said what he had. But is this just reaction thing? Is this just to say back off? What would you consider it?
And, here's the kicker. He says he has this girl as a girlfriend way early during the day, but a few days before this day, he said we are going to hang out together. And when we hang out, we have been known to have sex. And this hang out day, is this week, it will be just us together and no one else around when we hang out. And he says he's going to start getting me something I collect, to make sure I have a whole collection. That tells me, he plans to stick around a lot, or he wouldn't have said he plans to help me collect.
And then when he seen me again on Christmas Day, he was very quiet, very silent and didn't hardly talk much. He had plans elsewhere but decided to come over anyway and then go to his plans AFTER. He restated we are still hanging out this week.
What's with being so quiet all of a sudden? Why are guys quiet sometimes? Are they deep in thought or what? What is your take on this? Is he confused and likes us both? I don't get it..
Sounds to me his priorities are mixed.He doesn't know what he wants.Saying them things in front of you means one of two things.He's trying to make you jealous or he's incredibly stupid,but truthful.You don't want a guy who changes his words/actions too often,it gets a bit frustrating.I think he knows what he wants,he's just trying to take the whole cake and eat it too.
Okay, trying to dig into his head is going to drive you insane. To quote Miller's Crossing, "Nobody knows anybody. Not that well." It's said in great cynicism and bitterness, but there is a truth to it. Do not try to find the hidden meaning behind every action. That may seem like anathema to a site such as this, but I believe more in understanding who YOU are and how YOU relate to other rather than trying to make assumptions about people I don't know based on information from people I don't know.
So let's talk about you.
Is this how you want to be treated? To have half the heart of an indecisive guy? I know love doesn't answer to reason, but can it answer to self-respect? So let's cut out that middle-man and not to decipher him as a means to his heart. Let's get to his heart right now and be willing to lose. I know it probably sounds like a platitude, but there can be no true victory without the possibility of defeat.
So to you I say this: respect yourself and instead of being everything he needs, state your demands, your desires, and your needs. You're not going to share him and you're not going to be used. Tell him to grow up and make a decision or you're done. Sometimes the best way to win is the willingness to lose. And believe me: nothing is more powerful than a good offer that's about to be gone forever. The more unobtainable you are, the more desirable you'll be.
I know this doesn't answer the question you laid out, but I believe there's a bigger question surrounding this one. If not, I apologize and I wish you better answers than this one.
I've always been the type who makes a lot of noise in bed, or at least has very transparent reactions to things I enjoy. Most of the guys I've been...
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