Is there still hope?

Okay, get a grip on yourself. You messed up & made a big mistake. You may not be able to fix it. But you haven't ruined anyone's life or "lost everything." Everybody makes mistakes. I think being an adult is the day you truly realize you've made mistakes that have permanent consequences.

I'm not excusing what you did, but long-distance relationships are really hard. They usually don't work, and this is one of the big reasons. People NEED physical intimacy.

She's still coming to see you, so I think there's still hope. You need to give her some time and space. There's almost nothing more selfish than screwing up then expecting the other person to comfort you by forgiving you right away. You deserve to be scared, worried and uncertain; she deserves some time to work things out. Let her have it.

(Actually, I think it's sometimes selfish to tell someone you cheated if was an obvious mistake that you won't repeat. Telling her makes you feel a little better and her a lot worse! But this is beside the point, and a complicated topic of its own.)

You do need to figure out a way to make your relationship better so things don't get worse. If you just try to go back to how they were, there's a good chance that one of you will cheat again or you'll drift apart. You need to move closer together, find a better way to connect more often, make more specific plans to visit each other, etc.

The way to get over a big trauma in a relationship is by reaffirming a commitment by taking things to a new level. Of course, don't just jump into something you're not ready for, but things won't just go back how they were: you need to make them new.

I am so against cheating, but I also try to understand people make mistakes. If she's coming to see you, she obviously still cares about you. What you guys need is a really good talk, and you need to let it all out. Why did you cheat? What was depressing you, what was getting to you? You have to explain it to her, and hope to convince her you'll never do it again.

You see, that is where it always gets complicated. As much as I can see that you are very sorry and truly regret what you did, you have destroyed the trust in your relationship. It will always be an issue in the back of her mind, as most people will say you're forgiven but still wonder. And a relationship without trust won't last long. Also, if the problems led to you cheating this time, who is to say they won't lead to it again? These are all things you'll have to discuss with her and answer for her.

You really are sorry for it, and I'm sorry you're in this situation. I hope you guys can figure something out to keep your relationship going.

there is only hope if you really think about why you cheated on her its never ok to cheat your right and getting drunk is not an excuse to cheat on a girlfriend or boyfriend what you did was awful but you know what you did was awful and you are one of the very few guys who realizes the big mistake and truly regrets it and you are sorry very sorry and I can see that you are when she asks you why you did it don't say its because I was drunk that will still make her wounder and why you did it you need to figure it out before she comes to see you then if you are really honist with your self and with her then there is still hope but if your not honist with your self or her then there is no hope for you and her to get back together but I think she knows you made a terrible mistake and loves you deeply enough to come and see you to work things out she may forgive you in time and she may not but she will never forget that you did that its a scar that she will have for life you can never take back what you did to her but you can move forward and try to work things out just be very careful I am speaking from experience from being cheated on it will take time for her also to trust you even though she wants to work things out with you so do not lie about anything not even a white lie she needs to know that you love her and that she is your everything and that she can trust you so when she asks you questions take your time to think about them

ohboy. it sounds like she wants to forgive you if she's coming up. id be pretty pissed, but if there were problems in your relationship before you got drunk, then maybe there's something more to this story. bottom line, be honest. and be persistent. show her how you REALLY feel

by what you said it lokos like you might have a chance if she really didn't want to have to do anything with you anymore she would of cancel any plans to be with you. its depends on her maybe right now she needs time to think and make her decision. I'm against cheating as well its very hurtful. but it also depends on why you did. if I were you I would learn from my mistake ans cut down on the alcohol cus yea its feel goods but it cuase you to loose and hurt the person you care for most. just give her time to think thuings through and make her decision.

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Yea I think so. Every1 makes mistakes man. If she didn't want to forgive you she wouldn't be coming and visting. Just make sure you show her your extremely sorry. GOOD LUCK!