Being friends with your ex's new boyfriend?

how can I move on 2 someone else without worrying that I might hurt her feeling? What this girl broke your heart and you worried you might hurt her feeling? come on man, but I feel your pain. this is what I believe will help you. right now go get your cell phone,or adress book. go ahead ill wait.ok now go to her number ok now delete it forever get rid of her number. NEVER call her again don't thing about her date other women(or go out just to make friends with women) and if she calls you say your busy.dont be her doormat man that's no life and if she says that if she askes if you are best friends bulls**t again just say not anymore and hang up. get her out of your life. no ones treats a best friend like this. just learn from this experience and move on. I hoped this heled man.

I'm assuming that you didn't bring up children, she probably did. Now all these things have you curious of what could have been. That stuff is all talk and no action. What if she is out "painting the town red," and doesn't use protection, then what. What if She gets preganat or worse ... and calls you back. Then the mess is even BIGGER.

This SAME exact situation happened to me. Your priorities are probably a little up in the air because of this. Well, fast forward in my life. I'm BACK in school. And My ex is pregnant. And now she regrets what she did, but she had to learn the hard way because that was the path she chose. I did all the same things you say you are doing and it only delayed my progress in life. I waited a year to sign up for school because I was trying to be a good friend and work on things with my ex. And you know what I noticed about myself in that year. I didn't play the guitar, stopped working out, lost 20 lbs ( and I don't have 20 lbs to lose) and wasn't looking to healthy because of stress and I didn't know where my life was headed. And my heart wasn't truley broken until like 4 months after we broke up and she said "you were an awesome b/f, but things were going on with me, I just wanted to go out and meet new guys and experiment with sex." It was actually a lot more blatent than that, but you get the picture. But however, it WAS the honest answer.

You need to put up some phsycal boundries or you are going to probably going to end up feeling used.You're a person, not a yo-yo. Don't let it become like you're on a string and she can pull you in and push you away at her pleasing.

I mean, were you thinking about having kids wth her before you dated her; the answer is probably NO because the thought had not entered your mind. Get back to that mentality. If you really want worry about her, then just keep in mind of all the things you could be doing and having a lot more fun in doing those things w/out her. If she is running around with other guys, then running to you, then she doesn't know what she wants. She isn't worrying about you as much as she says. Actions speak louder than words. And her actions tell me, to tell you that you need to find a girl who will appreciate you as a person, and will take some time to think about their own actions versus getting you caught up in their wild perspective of life. You have already been there for her and look at the decisions she is making. It looks like it's time for you to make some decisions.

If the shoe was on the other foot, and you were doing this to her ... I don't think she would put up w/ it from you.

Best friends don't break your heart. She didn't tell you everything. I'm looking at the marriage and the relationship right after, and thinking she wants to see what the dating world is like. A similar situation happened to me and the real reason could really break your heart. And now she gets to date other guys however she pleases with your emotional support. THINK about it here. She wants you as a friend to call after she spends time with these other guys. That why she tells you that you are her best friend. But when she finds someone that she really connects with, and you don't hear from her for a little while- what do you think she'll be thinking of the guy that she's with... that he is her new best friend. It sounds like you need some time away from all this. Don't worry about her so much she made it this far, she'll be alright. It's you who will have your girlfriends become jealous of the chemistry that you share w/ your ex, when you are trying to move on. This could only lead to another heartbreak. At times like this you can't be worried about her ( I know that's all you can think about). But just let her know you need your space and you'll talk to her sometime soon. The over-seas guy was probably like an "emotional crutch" during your absence. Don't get stuck in the same routine. As for your ex's messy relationship now- it's not your actions that caused it, and it's probably not your actions that are going to fix it. Don't worry about it. She's a big girl, her actions- her consequences!