Cheaters

As a guy, I have never seen anything otherwise with myself and my guy friends to assume anything other than 'Once a Cheater, always a cheater.' Guys that cheat will continue this in my experience. I would like to add I have never cheated, only been cheated on.

I can see only one situation where this may change, and that is with age and family. If a cheating younger man marries and has a family he may learn from his past. This is not to say that having a guys baby will keep him. A guy that asks you to marry him, you marry and start a family mutally is the only circumstance where he may learn from his mistakes.

Once you cross that line, its easier to rationalize about cheating the second, third, fourth times, and so on. The ones who really bug me are the ones I call "serial players". They tell themselves that they are screening girls or searching for, or finding the right one. All the while not telling each girl she is one of several that he's seeing at the same time.

I know a guy who plays with so many girls-dozens-that he never uses their first names. He talks to them calling them pet names such as baby, sweetie, etc. They all think he's such a sweetheart, being so endearing! He made the statement that he does this so he won't use the wrong name in the heat of passion.

This really disgusts me; playing with people's feelings like that! Granted, there are probably women who do the same thing, but I don't know any personally.

Any comments on that aspect? Ladies doing this?

Well it does depend on the circumstances!! But this is the only circumstance I find valid...If they haven't cheated on you!! If they cheated on past girlfriends that's fine cause maybe they found something different in you that made them want to change their ways!! For example my Girlfriend right now has cheated on every bf she has ever had but because either she knew it wasn't going to work with them, she thought they were cheating on her, or they just pissed her off really bad by offending her or degrading her in front of her friends! But I know that she loves me and I trust her cause she has never given me a reason not to and she won't cheat on me as long as I treat her right!!

If you're an alcoholic and cheated when you were trying to sober up, does that mean you'll never be able to quit?

No, but the chances you'll be able to quit are stacked against you.

I think when someone cheats there is a reason. Something that their partner lacked doing. I don't think it's okay to cheat by any means but the person who does it, is definitely looking for the best of both worlds, even if it means dating two people at the same time, because they're lacking something from both relationships. That's my objective point of view.

One circumstance is you cheat on someone when you are drunk off your ass.. and you make a huge mistake, its not something that you would normally do. it just happens..

Another is when both of you know the relationship is failing miserably but you guys can't seem to cut it off for some reason.. and you just drop it, so you don't really consider it cheating if you have relations with another person you like outside of the relationship..