I have been with someone for over 2 years. He says that he loves me and that he wants to marry me. Two days ago by chance, I saw him with his ex driving together in his car. He recently told me that he hasn't seen or spoken to her in over 3 years. After I saw them together, I confronted him.
At first he denied everything. Now he finally told me that he has been in touch with her by phone and that they have been meeting once in awhile for coffee or lunch. He says that he never cheated on me and that they are just friends. I know that he loves me. I love him too. Should I forgive and forget? Please help
I agree with Evilbegining he most likely was just afraid to tell you because he was worried that you might think there WAS more and there isn't. My personal suggestion is to tell him that it did upset you and that he should be honest about it next time and just ask if you are ok with it!! But just in case keep an eye on how much time they spend together its better to be safe then sorry!!
Ditto. Ditto. And follow your gut. Over the years I've discovered my inner voice is usually right. Unless you feel like something more is going on, forgive him and move on :) - 11 months ago
Your best bet here to to believe him unless you feel he is lying. If you think he is cheating on you then you have to deal with that. If you think its true that he is just friends with her, and its possible, then you should forgive him for being short sighted and not just telling you he was hanging out with her.
Ex's can become friends later, even if it is rare.
Assuming he isn't cheating on you I would guess he didn't tell you about meeting up with her because he was afraid you would get upset, or jealous, his mistake as what he has done now is far worse then asking if you would be on with him having lunch or talking to his Ex from the beginning.
This situation hinges on whether you can believe he isn't cheating on you with her =/
I have read, quite a few times on here, about wanting to find true love at such a young age (or feeling someone had met 'the one' and thus didn't want the relationship to end despite the fact...
I used to feel guilty about having 'bad' thoughts about other women after I had a permanent relationship...and even while dating on a steady basis, before that. But with the wisdom of maturity I have...
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 11 months ago
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