My boyfriend tells me I'm can't hang out with any of my friends alone. Makes fun of me, ignores me completely and talks about his ex girlfriend as being "this hot little thing" right in front of our friends.
He'll say he's going out for whatever things and he'll be back in an hour. He's gone for 6 and never has what he went there for. He's always snapping at me, or pulling the whole guilt trip so I don't do thing I want to or whatever so it makes HIM happy.
I don't know what to do. I feel like all the time if he doesn't like something he'll emotionally blackmail me into it, or he purposely makes me feel bad. He'll make me constantly go get things for him even when they're right in front of him, not to mention I clean, (he doesn't) I do laundry, dishes, etc., take care of our animals, and work. He goes to work, comes home gets high, then leaves me.
I need help guys, I cry cause I want my old boyfriend back. What should I do?
As long as you keep doing those things while not getting appreciated, he will not change. Stop doing that, it may be hard but it's for the best. After all, ask yourself , are you his slave that you do things and he doesn't give a damn?
About being jealous, that may be understandable, actually a good thing, shows that he likes you, but sounds like it's too much which makes him a guy with no self-confidence. Not to mention no respect for what YOU want to do.
ALWAYSclassy
(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
Tells you you can't hang out w/ your friends alone = controlling and insecure makes fun of you = disrespectful and mean ignores you & snaps on you = emotionally abusive talks about his ex in front of your friends = emotionally abusive, disrespectful, wants to humiliate and degrade you lies about where he's going and when he'll be back = signs of a cheater guilt tripping = manipulative
I could go on but I think you get the picture. Hun, you can't get your old boyfriend back. I'm sorry but if you stay with him; it's likely to get worse. He is an abusive asshole and trust me you can find a guy who will love and appreciate you the way you deserve. You are too good for him and deep down he knows it, that's partly why he treats you the way he does. He's trying to make you feel bad about yourself so he can have control over you. Don't let him - leave him!!
whatever
(Age:36 to 45)
When: More than a year ago
Here's another way to look at this. Do you seriously think your boyfriend would stay in a relationship with a woman that treated him the way he treats you. I would bet not - he would say he wasn't being treated respectfully. That is the point - we should treat others like we want to be treated. You treat him well, he treats you crappy - how is that okay with either of you? You need to find someone that doesn't treat you this way. You need to demand to be treated well.
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(Age:25 to 29)
When: More than a year ago
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