Not only was this mentioned on When Harry Met Sally, but the guy I like and am currently in a "friends with benefits" relationship with said this to me last night. He said even if nothing ever comes of it, at least one of them wants to have sex. And the more I think about it, I realize that I can't think of a guy friend I've had (not just an acquaintance) that I haven't liked at some point or he hasn't like me. Does anyone else agree with this?
Look at some different situations here. Say you play the saxophone/drums or whatever in band class, jr. high. You may make friends with the other saxophone players/drummers in class. One of them might be a of the opposite sex. But what do you say to them: Hey nice saxophone what can you play. But your friendship may be like" just music friends." Because music is what you have in common.
Change situation: Bar/ Club.. People go there to have a good time or to "set up" for a good time, at a later time and place, you know. Different situations, different outcomes.
I have looked into this myself and if you would like look at the answers that were posted when I asked this question.
I feel that it is possible for a friendship to happen but they do require more work, at Least for the guy to remain friends. Every Guy (unless he is gay) has for at least a few seconds has thought about sex with every women that comes into their life. Even if it is just for a few seconds that he thinks to him self "no I won't have sex with her for so and so reason".
A lot of it has to do with the type of guy....Throughout high school, I had couple of close female friends, but we got along so well, that they were like sisters to me, so of course, I never thought of them in a sexual way. However, many times I befriended females with the ulterior motive that I wanted sex. After all, what guy in his right mind wants to listen to a girl talk for hours on the phone? I'm sure there are some that like that stuff, but as many of my friends have said, 'man, you gotta do what it takes to get some, and if that girl doesn't work out, then at least now you got her network of friends you can try to hook up with..'
So to answer your question, I honestly believe that yes, sometimes is possible to have male friends if you're a female, but most of the times, guys have 'ulterior' motives as to why they befriend a girl.
Alright so these guys with the ulterior motive, let's say they get what they want. After they have sex, do the guys just bolt or do they stay around to be friends still? - 11 months ago
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If they have ulterior motives, they will bolt once they get bored, or if somebody else crosses their path. - 11 months ago
That's totally not true. I have a lot of guy friends and none of them or me want to sleep with the other. Girls and Guys can be friends without worry that the other will want to sleep with the other person.
I don't agree! Because if the two of you will continue the kind of relationship he wants, It is either you will get your heartbroken and he gets the fun " NO strings attached" relationship should be a two way street and each should be ready for commitment...
what if you fall in love? then you get your heartbroken... I agree with you girl, this relationship will not work
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