From the married people I've talked to, the biggest re-occurring topic that is brought up is values.
Love is great but they all say it only last so long but what holds people together are the shared values.
A deal breaker for me is someone who doesn't look to improve themselves. It's just so neccasary for people to self reflect and change accordingly. I could met a girl who is a 5 but because she improves herself, she will improve to an 8 rather then pick the girl is a 7 and will never improve. Then we can both grow and change together to live happily ever after...
Wow, serious and deep question. I suppose if children are involved you work harder at it. But if not, I suppose it depends on the person and the situation.
If your just bf/gf then I suppose anything overly annoying to you is reason enough to move on.
If your married then it becomes more complicated. A married couple should give it a little more effort, they did get married because there was something there. Speaking for my situation as a married guy, I can't really see anything that would cause me to seperate from her. Just about anything can be figured out with communication. That said, outside communication such as this site can be helpful as it is easy to get into a relationship rut.
Also, if you find someone else you just like/love more this may be a reason, but I believe it would be important to determine if that attraction is just physical or sexual rather than a deeper emotional one.
This is a very good question though, and even brings up many other questions....
When (or if) the relationship gets to the point where one of us feels like the other one is avoiding the other on purpose (we all know when we are avoiding a person, or are being avoided by a person). To me it seems like avoidance (now I'm not talking about independence, that's a big difference) is something I try not to do, and stay away from those situations. Wait a minute ... "avoid an avoiding situation" That's another conundrum. that's like being useless in a useless situation. If it exists? That's like having a flat tire and not having anywhere to go ... then it's not a problem at the time being, until you decide to go somewhere, but what if you decide to walk instead of drive? Idk where this is going, but yeah I don't like this kind of stuff, lol! All because of a little avoidance!
Hey Girl, Here are some of the things that I think are absolute deal breakers for me.
Abusers Need I say more. A relationship should be about love and respect for the other person and I don't see this happening if the guy you are dating emotionally or physically abuses you. Its just degrades you as a human being.
Alcoholics/drug addicted I don't think you can have good relationship with these people because there number one priority is whatever drug that they are addicted to. If you want a drama filled relationship where your low on the priority list then I would say date one of them.
Womanizers Mainly I mean guys that just can't stay faithful. If you are looking for an exclusive relationship with someone. You want to know that YOU are the only one they are saying I love you to.
Those are the three most serious deal breakers The not so serious deal breakers for me are
Smoker Coz seriously I can't stand the smell of it and I just find it kinda gross
Lost guys Guys that just have no idea what they want to do with their life and whose ultimate dream would to play xbox all day for as long as they live.
Guys who don't look after themselves I'm talking about they don't care of their body, their life and their own affairs. If they don't respect themselves, then how can you respect them?
Negative, lying, untrustworthy Need I say more?
Ok ok so the last ones were kinda picky, but to me these are the things that I think are extremely important to censor out, when dating guys.
None the less I have to tell you bout my mum and dad. She was the sweetest most innocent girl and my dad was divorced, loved drinking, was a chain smoker and had more than 5 girlfriends at one time. Everyone told her not to marry him. N now they have been happily married for like 25 plus years. My dad can't stand smoking anymore he quit when my brother was born, doesn't drink at all and has completely been faithful to my mum. So what with that?!!! LoL
Well I personally hate it if the guy is rude.. Not necessarily to me.. But to anyone for that matter.. That is such a turn off. Also I really don't like it if he is too clingy.. ;(
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