Ive been in an "on and off" relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years now. we love each other and she always makes me so happy. But lately I've been losing sleep because she's been acting different. She tried to talk to me about it and told me she doesn't know if she's happy with me anymore but still loves me with all her heart.
Then she said she ISN'T as happy as she used to be with me. She says she wants a break for a little while, so she can be alone, but that scares me so much because she's VERY attractive and all the guys she hangs out with would do anything if she said it's ok. Am I too jealous? She still tells me I'm the only one she'd ever have a family with but she makes it seem like she wants to party and be single until she's ready for that, and THEN she'll come see me. Can ANYONE please ease my mind on this.
I'm trying really hard not to look at your age, but I can't help but notice you're under 18 and you've been with this person 5 years. I assume she too is under 18.
Over the years of knowing this person I'm sure you've both gone through a lot of changes- physical, mental and emotional. It is natural at your age to be curious about what else is out there. I think it's mature of her to let you know how she feels instead of getting mixed up playing games. It really sounds like she cares for you.
I think you're going to have to give her the space she's asking for. You may not like or agree with what she's doing, but you can't keep her from experiencing all the fun stuff life has to offer at your age. At the same time I don't think you should spend a lot of time dwelling on her reasons for wanting a break. It would be good for you to get out there and see what you may be missing out instead of talking about "having a family". I'm not suggesting go wild. It's just hard when you're finishing up high school and are on the cusp of adulthood.
I also wanted to say I think it's selfish for her to think it's okay to party and keep you waiting for her on the sidelines. Of course I don't know if she's actually said that or you were saying her actions imply that. Either way, not cool.
As clich as it sounds, only thing you can do is hope for the best. If you start acting clingy and possessive, then you will lose all chance you have with this girl. However, given your age range, is not unusual for males or females to want to go out with other people. As you said it, right now she seems she is ready to party and be single, and not ready for a committed relationship. You can't really force her to be in one, so all you can do is give her space, and time, and maybe later on she will be ready. Maybe she needs to go out with other guys to realize that there are a bunch of jerks out there, but until she experiences it for herself, it seems she is not ready to believe this is the case right now. Good luck!
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 11 months ago
asked 3 days ago
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