Why is it that the guy who truly cares never gets the girl?

Usually the guy who cares is the one who never tells the girl how he really feels

You just haven't found the right girl yet, but you will. Just keep your chin up and be nice to everyone. You will be rewarded in the end. I know a guy who got rejected by 300 girls because he stuttered when he talked. HE was extmerely spiritual and a very good person but girls didn't like him because he was too nice. Then he met this girl who looked like a supermodel and was also a really strong christian and they fell in love so be careful.

Because in a relationship there is always someone who loves more than the other. There is one always at receiving end.

We never care for those who love us and always love those who don't care.

This kind of stuff can happen to anyone- girl or boy, friendship or relationship. I agree with what the other people so far said, but also (since you are still in high school I'm assuming since your age), you are probably into the girls who aren't the nicest people. This type of stuff is really common in high school. You may be really attracted to them because they are the hardest to get or hardest to please, but it doesn't seem like anything YOU do can ever be good enough. I know its hard to "lower your standards" (I mean don't go for a really popular girl, try a shy girl or something) but sometimes in these situations it really helps. At this age a lot of girls aren't into the 'nice' guy, its about hotness or whatever (some girls its athletics, others its style..). I'm in high school, too, it sucks, but this is just the way a lot of people in this age group act...I hope this helped, this might not be your situation at all, I just know it happens to guys and girls all the time at my school..

First off, the "always being there for them, and they never retun it" thing isn't just you. It happens to me in my "friendships" with people.

The guy who truly cares never gets the girl because, well I don't really know why. They should do. Many (not all) girls always talk about how they want a sweet guy that'll do romantic stuff, blah, blah; but when he comes to her, she shoots him down. NO, she'd rather focus her time following someone who could cares less, and makes it clear to her that he doesn't care.

This makes NO sense, and it gives the rest of us girls bad names.

People (guys & girls) should stop playing games when it comes to emotions. Nobody likes to be hurt, so why put someone through that?

Don't worry about it, dude. Like one of the other posters said, if you keep being nice, you will be rewarded one day. It may never be hooking up with a girl you talk to now, but don't get frustrated because once you're in the friend zone it is hard to get out. Telling one of these girls you care for her now will just scare her away and not even want to be friends with you. I'd rather be able to show a girl I can just be friends with cute girls without trying to bed them than to show them a list of girls I hit on too late and rejected me.

If you really do like one of the girls who is crying on your shoulder about an abusive boyfriend or something of that nature, just come out and tell her, "Hey, you know that I care for you and you deserve better, I think I could do better, do you want to hang out some time?" Just as friends if it has to be that way.

Reality check. From experience I can tell you to not waste your time with the shallow girls. Do your homework and spot the girl you like and take notes as to what they are into. Once you spot something bring it up in conversation and see where it goes from there. for example, if the girl you like happens to like beer pubs and watch the greenbay packers, tell her if she saw the game on sunday and what a coincidence you happen to have a couple of tickets and a girl bailed out on you. I wonder who (HER)wouldn't mind going with me to watch her favorite team.
Another strategy is to look for a potential hottie who isn't so hottie because she doesn't dress so well. Try to picture all the girls in your school in dresses and make up and see which one is a potential hottie. Some of the ugly bettys may surprise you in a nice hot mini skirt. Use your head when it comes to choosing the girl for you.

Never give relationship advice to a girl you like . . . . . . . Ever.

trust me dude I know the feeling. you have a couple things you have to factor in first off girls in general say 1 thing mean another. why who knows its just the way things go. they are fickled as hell and never know what they truly want. another thing is sex appeal, they want the hot mysterious guy, the one they never know what will happen and when. also you have to realize once you become the guy that's always there you enter what we call the friend zone. your basically everything she wants but in the wrong person. she thinks of you as a brother and it would be weird and wouldn't be right to her to date you in fear of hurting the friendship. and trust me been in the friend zone many times over and I still get stuck there. just the way some guys are, we want to help her out and hope she will let us in. also when it comes to you when you need help they aren't paying attention to you because they are always used to you having the answers so they figure you can fix your own problems. all I have to say and hopefully you can have better luck than some of us is learn to become the "sexy mysterious" guy that they want but yet still be nice and kind to them. don't be afraid of asking them for their number after just meeting them but only if you were successful in your flirting. also when you do ask them or talk with them, BE CONFIDENT . that's the #1 reason I've seen many guys that care so much for a girl but lack the confidence to talk to them. I'm one of those guys. some girls think its kinda cute when a guy is having a hard time asking them out, others are turned off and already rejecting whatever else you have to say because of lack of confidence. also that's one thing that the "sexy mysterious " type of guys have they have too much confidence witch turns into being cocky and then just a plain jerk. so truly I hope you understood at least 1 word I just tried to explain and good luck with the dating scene your gonna need it.

Treat them mean keep them keen

That always works for me...if they don’t like it move on there are plenty of other fish in the sea

Nice guys aren't masculine enough, we have to be jerks to women if we want them to like us.

At least that's the idea I'm getting from young women these days, they want a guy who cares about them but who also is aggressive. Seems to me they don't know what they want.