In love with my gay best friend, what do I do?

Okay, I'm in the same situation too. Its really a sticky situation when the subject does come up between us too. I really never felt anything more beyond the fuzzy "best-friend" feeling. If I were you I really wouldn't force this feeling upon the guy. It happened to me and I was under so much pressure and I really didn't want to break my best-friend's heart by saying, I don't love you that way; nonetheless in the end I had to do something about it. I know this sounds kind of selfish, however I would've preferred that her heart ached at the moment of rejection than by something more dramatic if I would've given in to the pursuit. If you would've pursued the forcing of your feelings on to him and if he were to give in, I can't help to think that the future of your relationship would destroy more than just the new bond.

You said it yourself: he's not interested in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. To try to change him would be forcing him to sacrifice his beliefs and happiness. It sounds like he loves you as a friend, but unless you know that he's a closet heterosexual, your advances can only hurt the relationship.

(I'm not gay, but I respect a person's chosen beliefs.) :)

Lol nice answer Luis you just had to answer this one. Hu :op <3

You have to realize that turning any gay guy straight or bisexual is hard to do and most of the time almost impossible lol. Even though you love him, your best bet would be to try and get over him. Think of it this way. Why would you want to be with someone. And love someone who didn't love you back? After awhile it gets old and just starts to become a problem. You deserve better than that. You said that you've also been best friends with him for 9 years. So why not discuss it more with him?

I had this problem a few years ago. My best friend was gay and I was so in love with him, and I ended up ruining our friendship over it because I tried to change him. Its not worth loosing a friendship for.

Oh dear, the GBF. It happens to all of us, sweetie. I don't know if it's a subconscious desire to get him to play for our team or the thrill of the unattainable or just the fact that you know you shouldn't be attracted to him, but it does tend to happen. But when it happens, you just have to let it go. There's really no other option.

Think of it this way. Say you're totally straight and completely uninterested in women. This may be true or it may not be, I can't say because I'm not you. But if your female friend came up to you and suggested that the two of you have a relationship of some sort, there's no way you'd agree. It's the same for your GBF. I'm sorry, but you just have to force yourself to think of him as a friend and nothing more. It's hard, but you have to work through it if you want to avoid hurting the friendship. Good luck.