We were together for 3 and a half years. Well, we broke up about a month ago, on good terms. She said she was very confused and wanted to find out who she was. I agreed that I needed to stop and find out who I am as well. We still talk (for about 2 weeks we didn't) and tell each other "I love you" quite frequently. Truthfully, we probably talk more now daily than we did when we were dating in those last few months. But, she also talks to a lot of other guys, they all like her (or want something from her) and this kind of makes me worry. She has kissed three guys already since we broke up (two under the influence of alcohol) but told me none of them meant anything. I can't really be mad at her for this, we are single and it is just a kiss. I have changed a lot, all for the better. Recently, I have become someone I wasn't and now know who I truly am. She told me she liked the old me back and complimented me a lot about it. I was talking to her Saturday and she told me I shouldn't worry. She is not out looking for a boyfriend, she wants to marry me and have my kids. She just wants to find out who she is, other than my girlfriend. This was all between tears from both of us because we were making up from a fight we had that past Wednesday. She told me she misses me and that she loves me. Well we hung out Sunday for about an hour, we just drove around town. She told me "Being single isn't as much fun as she thought it would be" and "All guys are jerks" Then, she told me I needed to listen to a song. The main part I had to listen to was "Cause when I'm with him I am thinking of you Thinking of you What you would do if You were the one Who was spending the night Oh I wish that I Was looking into..." I asked her what that meant to her and I, jokingly, and she just looked at me and smiled. I looked the rest of the song up later and found out the ending is about the girl asking the guy to bring her back into his life, because that is where she wants to be. (The song is Thinking of You if you want to listen to all the lyrics) I know she does love me and wants to be with me, but are these signs that she is waiting for me to ask her back out? I don't want to make myself look like a fool and push her away if I am misreading them. What does everyone think here?
i went through something like this. Well it wasnt me it was my bff but I had to b there through it all like a good friend and it is sorta still going on but I understand what you mean since I'm also friends with the guy. He tells me tht he still likes her but he is kinda nervous to get back with her and she wants to get back with him but doesn't wanna ask him. I would say the best thing to do is to just be honest with her about the way tht she is leading you on and see what she says. Also girls don't always make the first move. Not even the sassy ones tht insist on being in charge! So you might just wanna take a chance (wat do you have to lose) besides if you look like a fool wen you tell her do you honestly think its going to be important in 1 or 2 years?
To me, it sounds like she is a 19 year old (assuming from your age) who is trying to figure her life out. No offense to you, but 19 year olds TYPICALLY don't know who they are and can't know who they are going to spend their life with. She has to see what else is out there. As hard as it may be, you should be her friend. Show her that you are maturing and that you will be there for her. She'll come around once she's ready. In the meantime, you should do the same. There are a million girls out there and you should be making sure she is the right one before putting your life on hold. Good Luck!
I don't think she wants you back. It's obvious she wants to explore, and have fun. She wants to see what else is out there. But at the same time she wants to know she has you to fall on if things don't go well with her... exploring. She doesn't want you to move on, so she says these things to string you along, and make you wait around. I'm sure she enjoys the attention from other guys. Because if she didn't she would be with you right now. Anyways, I'm happy for you. Because you mentioned you now know who you truly are. And that's a really good thing. Atleast something really good came out of this break up. You found yourself :) Let her go, and don't waste your time waiting around for her. Wait around for the right girl, who will respect you, and want you, only you, no one else. You deserve that.
She didn't want me back. She said she was not ready yet. Then the next weekend she went to the movies with some guy. I told her I did not want to talk to her again until she was ready to recommit. But thank you, I thought the same thing. - 9 months ago
I say ask her out!! believe me, I recently broke up with my boyfriend for 5 years, we were engaged, we ended on good terms. but now I'm wanting him back, and he's not ready..so now I'm at this point, where I'm thinking I'll never be able to love him again, because he has kept me waiting and waiting for tooo many months!! & I'm tired of being pushed away! ask her out again!! I'm sure that's all she's waiting for! you don't want to lose the chance!! - 7 months ago
What Guys Said
There are no answers from guys yet. Answers are getting posted all the time so check back soon...or submit your own answer above!
Thanksgiving is right around the corner and just like the last year and the year before, you will most likely spend it with your family. And just like everyone else, you have a crazy uncle or an...
$20 Amazon Gift Card
Check out the winner of the last contest! Worst Pick Up Lines
Winner received $20 Amazon Gift Card
hi I been going out with my girlfriend for about a year. we were so close we saw each other everyday. she was very emotional. we had fun times but we...
Every day couples who felt they were in a good or even great relationship find themselves broken up. Frequently the reasons for the break up aren't clear and the break up seems senseless. This...
The first time I encounter infidelityI remember vividly the first time I was ever unfaithful (does that mean there was a second?). I had just met the girl of my dreams. We had similar views and we...
Disclaimer: GirlsAskGuys cannot guarantee the accuracy of answers, opinions and advice submitted by members. Please use common sense when following or omitting any content on GirlsAskGuys.com
Poll added by question asker. Cast your vote to see the current results.
$20 Amazon Gift Card
Site Links
About GirlsAskGuys
GirlsAskGuys Widgets
Help Us Improve!
