I recently started dating this guy who I've developed really serious feelings for. We have been dating for about a month so things are still quite new and fun. I like his company and I can feel us getting closer when we are together.
The only thing is, he found out yesterday that his brother who he had been close to committed suicide. I told him I would be there for him anyway I could and I gave him a call to see how he is doing but I don't know how else to react to the situation.
When I talked to him, he seemed like it hadn't even hit him yet, and I know that a few of his friends are doing their best to keep him in good spirits, I just feel like there is no place in this for me, although I really want to help and be there for him. He has expressed to me that he misses me but he hasn't acted the same way he has, but who would at a time like this?
Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice? Anything at all would help, I'm trying to give him the space he needs but I want him to know that I care for him.
I'm so sorry to hear about that. My condolences go out to him and to his family.
Death is always a tough thing to handle. Especially the death of a loved one. The best thing you can do is make sure that he knows you're there for him. Aside from that, don't play psychologist and force him to talk about it (a lot of people seem to do that). If you're talking to him, wait for him to talk about it. Don't offer him any advice on how to grieve. This is the time to make sure that you're a good listener and that you're a patient person. Each person grieves differently, though. Just make sure that anything you decide to do or say doesn't hinder it. If he's close enough to you that you can see him, I would suggest a hug. Hugs always help, in every situation. Hug him and just be quiet... Listen with your heart, I'm sure it'll be comforting.
I hope that sort of helped... It's been so long since I've been in a situation like that, I'm not quite sure how I would react anymore. Good luck.
Thank you so much that helped a lot. he's out of town now but before he left I gave him as many long hugs as I could squeeze in and he seemed to appreciate that. - 9 months ago
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