My relationship with this man started as a mentorship, which eventually turned into friendship. I've known him for 5 years now. He is great, anything that I need, he's there and vice versa. About 2 years ago, my feelings from just friendship to me wanting something more. He has been away for about 9 months now, working on a job project overseas.
I figured this would be a good break from him (as we are both married) About two months after he had left, he reached out to mutual coworkers to find out why I have not written him. Since then, we have been in touch through emails. Do I risk my friendship by telling him how I feel? Or do I simply just slowly walk away from our friendship?
I think you tell him how you feel! However, are you prepared for either response he may give? For instance he may respond with saying he feels the emotional connection then what? or He could say he feels the connection and morally unable to commit due to both of your relationship statuses (married).
You can opt to continue to enjoy the insanity roller coaster of looking for signs if he interested, or wonder if he is thinking about you as much as you are thinking about him, by not saying anything. Either Way I wish you the best and hope it ends as you expect it too.
I think being friends for 5 years... you should be able to trust this guy enough to tell him how you feel. It may be a shock to him but I don't think it would hurt your friendship. Maybe he would be interested in dating you but you won't know until you talk to him and tell him how you feel. Don't hold back it could turn into a wonderful relationship :)
Well, I am going to say this but do not, get angry with me. Because I am a great person: No, don't talk to him. YOU BOTH ARE MARRIED! It's even horrible that you would think you would want more while you still are. Ask your husband if you should tell him your feelings about wanting more. See, what his reaction would be. Or call up his wife and ask her advice. Walk away, there are other people besides you two involved. Think about that. And I hope there are no kids in the picture. Sorry, but it's wrong and you should walk away. If you are lonely in your marriage? then become friends again with the guy you made a life commitment with. It's cheating, and it comes back to bite you.
I agree with Lesae. No good can come of cheating. Emotional affairs can be considered cheating too, you know... That's another type of intimacy. I think you and your husband AND your friend and his wife should all seek Couple's Counseling. Good luck - 10 months ago
(Age:30 to 35)
When: 10 months ago
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