We were dating for about 2 yrs and it ended at the end of August. Ever since then I've talked to him online or he'll call me, but to hang out, and I'll see him about twice a month. He lives about 30 min away from me and we're both teenagers.
I'm in my senior yr of high school and he just began college, but it's a college that is still only 30 min away fro me. We broke up because of different factors, but mainly it got too hard with our schedules to try and see each other a lot. but every time I see him, we end up having sex. I don't need him to be in love with me, but I just don't want to be used.
He told me the day that we broke up that he didn't want another girlfriend for awhile but among this conversation I hadn't seen him for a month because he was on vacation and he saw me on the webcam (don't worry, I wasn't doing anything sexual or anything to turn him on) the day after breaking up and kept saying he wanted to have sex with me. I told him I didn't want to be used and he tells me he likes having sex with me. so the day I have sex with him after breaking up, I told him I don't want to get hurt if I do this, and he goes, well let's find out.
I'm not gunna lie, that pissed me off lol. in the month of october he thought another guy was interested in me because of how he was talking to me through myspace and he basically just acted jealous and would make little comments here and there. but its january now and sex is still happening. what does all this mean!
Update: Hmm maybe this will clarify. I'm the one who broke up with him because I felt like it just wasn't working. I'm not allowed to date nonjewish boys so we figured it might as well end now instead of prolonging the inevitable b/c I'm going to college soon.
10 months ago
He could care less about you. Brutally honest? maybe. He is definitely using you and you don't deserve that.. guys like that are just pigs, and they need slapped. He can't be in a relationship with you because he doesn't see you enough but he can have sex with you.. which means if he really wanted to see you, or cared enough about you.. you guys would be in a relationship at this second. "I told him I didn't want to be used and he tells me he likes having sex with me." << No offense but having sex with you while he doesn't want a relationship is by far USING you. I don't think he cares about you.. he almost definitely doesn't care about you. Think before you do stuff like that.. 30 minutes away isn't long AT ALL... 30 minutes away is nothing.. You need to do away with him, get him out of your life if he isn't doing much for you.
I mean I appreciate the honesty...i just dunno. I really did love him and I initiated the break up and we had to break up anyway because this is gunna sound dumb, but I'm not suppose to date non-jewish boys so it was bound to end when I go to college - 10 months ago
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That doesn't sound dumb.. he just isn't worth it because your loosening up for nothing.. you know what I mean ? ;) - 10 months ago
Question Asker
Lol I know what you mean, I just wish he wasn't using me. I hate thinking that someone I care soo much about could have such bad intentions. - 10 months ago
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When my mom told my "Guys are Pigs" I didn't believe her. When my dad said until you have been dating and they have stuck with you through everything " They only want one thing " When my 18 year old brother said "Guys will use you" That's when it hit me.! - 10 months ago
It's understandable that you both broke up if you can never see each other. Personally... I would not have sex with someone who I broke up with.. I did it once in the past and I learned my lesson because now we don't talk at all and it hurt me. So, if you don't want to get hurt you have to be careful. You have to decide weather or not you want sex with an ex or you only want sex in a relationship. My friends kept telling me don't do it it's a bad idea.. because as soon as he gets a girlfriend the sex will end. I didn't believe them and then it happened. So.. I suggest you sit and really think about what you want. You say you don't need for this guy to love you to have sex with him... but in the end that's gonna bite you in the ass. Wouldn't you feel better having sex with a man who loves, appreciates and wants to have sex with you because he's in love with you rather than just an ex? Hope I helped you good luck and be careful.
Sweetie, you have to stop having sex with him all together. He does not respect you enough to make you his girlfriend but he still wants the sex. He is using you. Don't let him use you. Have enough love for yourself to stay away from him. He wants a sexual relationship with you but nothing else. You are still in high school and you have the entire future ahead of you. Focus on that and college not this guy!!!
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When: 10 months ago
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