Hello, I really need some guys or girls to give me some advice asap, I am so out of practice at picking up signals I have not a clue what to do! I will be so grateful for anyone who could spare me just a few mins. Thank you. xx
let me explain best I can...
I am in a bit of a dilemma, I have been single for 5 years so am really out of practice when it comes to men, I have only had 2 proper relationships both many years ago. I have chosen to stay single but now I have developed feelings for a close male friend and don't know if he feels the same?
We met online facebook actually, we get on great and I told him I only wanted friendship, from there we have gone on to phone calls and he phones me most days, he makes me laugh and is a really lovely guy, I have also been helping him out with his new business. Anyway, he is very respectful, never really talks about sex or anything, he used to be a male stripper until recently and is very fit and good looking, prob too good for me but it's not his looks I fell for, it's the way he makes me feel, his wicked sense of humour. Being a stripper you see he has had loads of women b4! He still is a bit of a ladies man I think. But we have such a connection, we flirt a little but always back off normally with an awkward giggle or silence. He has told all his friends and his mum about me!
Then today he told me he had a dream about me last night, he was on a coach looking out the window and saw me, I was wearing arm bands or something silly! What does this mean? am I just a m8 or is he feeling stuff too? he is opening up to me more each day. I think I am falling for him but I don't wanna get hurt!
He has been in my life now for 7 weeks, he wants to hook up soon. I just don't know where I stand, I kind of made it so obvious from the beginning friendship was all I could offer, I never planned to fall for the guy, he means the world to me though, he is so sweet. I know we are getting closer but is it just he sees me more as a true friend, or has he got feelings too? and how would I even find out?, can't ask him, will scare him off!
I would rather just keep our beautiful friendship than ever risk loosing him, he is like a ray of sunshine in my life I have never been soo happy, I get butterflies all the time and look forward to his calls. I never chase him, he calls me mostly, I often divert him too my voicemail too if I am busy, he is a real personality and a joker so I don't always have the time. he left me a sweet voicemail yesterday talking about something I had done for him regarding work then said ;;call me later, love you bye bye'' the bye bye part was said in a silly voice, have not read anything into it but maybe that means somethin too? The fact he is a real hunk too is simply a bonus!
Please if anyone can help I would be so grateful, I feel lost at the moment like I can't move forward cos I don't know whats happening, if we are on the same page!
Thanks so much
j. xx
Update: Am feeling today that maybe I am being used, prob cos I been working so hard for him and he shown no gratitude. I know I am over-reacting tho cos I know he does really appreciate me. Just wish he would show it sometimes. Hot and cold messages irritate me!
10 months ago
Update: And I was right, just had a lovely call, telling me how grateful he is etc, am so happy, we talked for ages about some interesting stuff. Oh my emotions are all over the place, I so wish some people would write on here and help me out. xxx
10 months ago
Wow... hold out for a few months and see where it's at then. Take the pontential sex out iof the situation . Sounds like the wolf ready to make the kill. You wouldn't suppose he's just practicing his skills on you? Women will see what they want to see.
He is very sweet to me, don't think he would ever hurt me, why tell his mum and ALL his friends about me if I mean nothing? I can only pray you're wrong on that one because it would really hurt. Thanks for your answer though it all helps me understand more. xxx - 10 months ago
Answerer
Sorry wasnt trying to be mean. Wish you luck - 10 months ago
Question Asker
Thats ok, It's your opinion and I have taken it on board. I just hope you're wrong, nothing more lol. Thanks. x - 10 months ago
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When: 10 months ago
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