I need an idea how to get him back

This guy doesn't feel the same way about what you had as you did. Maybe it is the other girl or maybe not. What difference does it make? You should take a new approach to this. A complete new mindset. Really you need to quit the what can I do to get him back strategy. Nothing is worse than clingy. Give him the space he seems to need. Treat him as a FRIEND and talk a little as long as its not taking up a lot of your time. Be not so available. Secondly do things you enjoy. Spend time with your girlfriends and such. Get happy again.Smile and be confident of yourself and your worth. Always try to look your best as it makes you feel better about yourself. Men are drawn to confident women just as your drawn to confident men. How you feel about you is what is sexy. At this point I would expect you have a new opinion about your past relationship with...what was his name? Alway have courage to change.

I'm sorry but I think you should let this guy go. If a relationship has not worked once it's very VERY rare you'll find one that has worked for the second time. Also the fact he has told you he doesn't think of you as a girlfriend anymore sounds kind of his way of saying it's off the table.

Anyone can tell from how you've worded the question that you care deeply about him. So I personally would say to stay away from the friendship idea. Because when you see him with his partner or future partners it's just going to hurt you and slowly take away whatever hope you have left.

Give it some adequate time to get over him (it will happen eventually I promise) then let yourself get back out there.

Your best bet would be to try your hand at his friendship first. Gain his trust again and see if something develops there. that's would be the best thing that you could do. Its going to be a slow process, but I think that's the best thing to do right now.

Good Luck!!

You know sometimes guys a lier,the truth is guys are egoist. From my observation,research and experience. Man are always tell the truth when he is really in love with you. What I mean was the way how he feels about you and that is true. But once we hurt them in the situation over and over again. He will lose trust on us but the feeling that he felt was still there. He is just confuse on feeling of hurt, anger and the intense feeling. That's why the answer that he gave seems not really correct. He will answer anything hurts to you after broke up when you try to discuss about your past relationship because when you are not his girlfriend anymore,someone who he has been share life with,he becomes exactly a stranger to you,he will never care what your life is going on,whether you sick or anything,because for man,they think they can find love anytime,so, that's why for them change partner as clothes are usual thing. That was the reason why he says he is not really loves his new partner. He is confuse on how he feels right now. The hidden truth here was,when man really fallen in love,they will do anything for you and even he want to get marry with you. But,once his hurt,maybe because of our treatment to them,action and cares are not make them happy,they will get very hurt and confuse,especially his feeling. Man do has feeling like us.

My advise is,if you convince that he is the man of your life and you still have that strong feeling,try to get him back because that love,true feeling is only for him because if he really meant to you, he won't go anywhere. Don't be hurry,takes time,change your old behavior first if you are hot temper,easy get jealous,sensitive and all your weaknesses and become the girl he is looking from you. When your inner side has truly transform,try to talk to him as friend first,but not too obvious,win his trust back,make him notice your change. Treat him beautifully but as friend,like you never treat him before. I mean don't deliberately hurt him by word,make sense of humor,start it again like the first time you met him,impress him by your personality and if he is giving positive feedback, and you notice something in his eyes from the way he is looking to you. Wait. You already make the first move and his turn now to show how he's feel. If he is calling you,take you for dinner. Don't speak up what you feel until he says first. Then you might get a chance to start all over again but remember, don't EVER repeat the same mistake again. Good luck.

You said he is the love of your life. I believe you. This is how I got the love of my life back after 13 years of being apart. So many people will tell you to leave him, but that's not the answer. You'll just end up more broken and confused, like I was. The first step is to ask god for help. Open your heart and mind to whatever answer he gives you. Just remember that your love for this man is real and god respects that. The second step is to share this information with him: fears and condoms can prevent a man from climaxing during sex. Fear of getting a woman pregnant because he is not ready to become a parent is #1, and condoms preventing him from fully feeling the sensation prevent a man from climaxing is #2. He may have the fear that your personality will change or some other fear. Third, accept responsibility and ask him, "will you tell me what's wrong so that I don't keep making the same mistakes? " be supportive, not demanding, but you deserve an honest answer. Share your fears of abandonment or whatever else with him. If he refuses to tell you why, just give him time to think about it. What he has done in leaving you without giving you a reason is wrong, but don't give up. Let him think about it. Once he opens up about why he left, you're halfway there. In every relationship there needs to be boundaries. The boundaries that I've come to set are found in the bible. Exodus 21:10 teaches if a man chooses to have a second woman, he should treat both women the same and not leave one for the other. (even slave women had the right not to be abandoned. ) malachi teaches men not to be abusive in their relationships. Adultery is defined as a man having sex with a woman who has already had sex with another man, who is still living. You may have to resolve to allow him to have you both as long as he commits to not abandon or neglect either of you. Encourage him to tell her everything and be honest about what's happened with you. If you choose to go this route, it may be better if you see them together first, to get you used to the idea. Whether you stay with him or leave, it's not going to be easy. Just know I've been thru the leaving him route and it's not worth leaving him when he's the love of your life. You don't have to be a doormat to keep your true love, but in a society where women outnumber men, you have to be willing to allow him this privilege or else you may end up alone or unhappily married to someone else. Make your decisions with your heart. You'll get thru this. Somehow I did.