Mostly because of the fear of rejection... When I was young, honestly I was really scared of girls... I really don't know why. I mean the worst the girl can say is no right?!! Although it will break your heart and all, it's a life experience and everybody has to go through these stages at least on in your life. I didn't even really start talking to girls until um... now actually... I'm 23 now and I'm thinking to myself now, you know, what was wrong with me?! The trick is that you HAVE to make a first good impression or else its going to feel really awkward afterwards... you need to talk to the girl like just casual talk "how's it going" and go from there and just try to act confident.... it works... and you just feel more comfortable afterwards... that's just my experience anyways. I sure wished I talked to more girls when I was back in school... I still can't understand why I was soooo shy back then...
You gotta start talking man, or else you'll start to regret it as you get older!!
Yes, sometimes. See my comment below. Sometimes the fear of being rejected can paralyze you, and keep you from even trying. Be understanding with him, and as he feels more comfortable with you, his shyness should go away. Thats the only thing that will cure this; experience. You have to force yourself to be outgoing with girls!
Yes! Especially if the shy guy has been hurt in the past or made fun of. I was teased a lot growing up, and it destroyed my self esteem and self confidence. When I got older, I was afraid that if I was to ask a girl out who I liked she'd not only say no but she'd laugh at me. Then the next day my whole class would be laughing at me. I know it's extreme, but that's what shy guys sometimes think. I mean I was shy before, but got more shy and nervous as I got older. And it has gotten to the point where I sit and pine over the girl afraid to ask her out for fear of rejection and being hurt again. Sadly the fear of rejection can be so strong the guy doesn't even want to risk it. The best option in my opinion if you like him is to let him so. This will help him gain some more self esteem and since you like him it will help you out as well.
I feel your pain. I was painfully shy until well into my 20's. As I got older, this feeling went away. Of course life's experiences with women helped this. Don't waste the best years of your life being alone; force yourself to ask girls out! Go for it!! - 10 months ago
As a once painfully shy gal, I suggest you make it your New Year's Resolution to break your "give-a-damn". When you do that, you'll be a lot happier. You have to make a conscious decision to do that. It took me over 20 years to do. Don't wait like I did. - 10 months ago
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