I am separated from my husband of 6 years we have been apart for over a year. We stay friends/still married but I am ready to move on. He still tells me he loves me and we still sleep together (sex) but then when the question of reconciling comes up "Its not the time we have to figure things out and we have to change" are the basic things he says.
So, he is messing with what I want to truly do and that is get back together but then again I want to finally make it final. We do not live together he lives two hours away. See I have our five year old daughter and this really confuses her and I hate it. I tried a month ago to finally say I am Not going back up to Tulsa. My daughter had not seen him since Christmas and she was really wanting to see him. Well my luck (right!) I had a business trip up there and it was on a Friday. So, we went up there! So, I am just to say "WHAT DO YOU WANT????"
Now, I have asked him for help with our daughter $75/week that is not much but he said "NO" that he is tryin' to save up for a car. The guy only makes 67 cents less then me and I make it and I pay double in bills. So, now I am lookin' for a lawyer but then he ask me to wait!
What does he truly want?? (he either is: wanting to maybe work it out! (most likely not!!) or he is buying his time to have to pay!!)
The thing is though, he really may still love you, but not in love with you the way that you think. Maybe he's confused and not sure what to do. He may love you, but doesn't know if he's wanting to try it again for reasons unknown. Maybe he's worried that things will end up the way they were when you guys broke up. Maybe he has a personal problem and the Cliche stands, "it's him, and not you". Either way, the BEST thing you can do is talk to him about these issues and let him know where you would stand. If I were a female in your shoes this is were I would stand- I would let him know what I wanted, either we are getting back together, if so then great. If not, then no more friends with benefits and I'm moving on. I would set a date for him to start paying you, but be respective of his situation as well maybe agree on a date together.
After that, I would stick to everything I just said. Be strong and don't give in to your own wants for sex, or it may f*** everything up as he will not take you seriously. I'd also warn against taking him back easily after that, as he may just want to end paying for things, and such, not because he loves you. You'll have to feel that out on your own. Anyhow, hope this helped, now since I have a question that has yet to get any responses, I post this next line after everything I write.
He wants your current situation to remain the same forever. No child support, no commitment, and benefits on the side. He's having his cake and eating it too. It's only a marriage by law, since he's basically living the single life.
Ok you say your ready to move on but then why are you still sleeping with him! don't have sex with him unless he is willing to get back with you!! because why would he get back with you if he's having sex with you without being together?? think about it.. he's a guy, no offense to guys there are a lot of really nice ones out there but he's just using you for sex
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