He ends up being in the same group of friends as my ex

Geezuz Christ woman, You know how I feel about going out with the same group of friends. Your going to be hated around town and people are going to talk shit. Then eventually it won't work out between you two. Then you 'll have a bad reputation. You've been with this guys for 2yrs. You already want to start dating? You guys barely broke up. Maybe you didn't care for him as much as you thought. You seemed to have gotten over it real quick. remember small town, everyone is going to talk. Especially the haters. they will talk about how you got passed around. Just keepin' it real love.

I disagree with a couple of people here, You asking him to keep things on the low until you decide if the other person is even into it is not a bad idea... You have to live your life and why bring any unnecessary drama into your life for a couple of dates... I say go for it but talk to him first make sure he is cool with that and if he isn't willing to do that for you then he ain't worth your time anyways... good luck.

Agreed with the other poster. Do what you want. If he's not a good friend of your EX, and your EX wants nothing to do with you, it shouldn't be a big deal for either of you. I wouldn't suggest telling him not to tell anybody. If I were you, I wouldn't worry about what anyone else thinks, really, it's none of their business anyway.

I go to college in a small town, too, and I know EXACTLY what you're going through.

Honestly, don't worry it and do what you want. Boys typically don't start drama, and if they do, they're just trying to get a rise out of you. The point is you're not doing anything wrong.

Don't advertise the date with this guy, but if it comes up just answer truthfully. If people start crap about it, don't listen. There's a reason you and your ex are exes, and you're moving on, and frankly it's none of any body's business.

Hey girl,
Well I can see that you have a little bit of a sticky situation here! How long ago did you guys break up?

I know that you don't want the whole town talking about you. But the fact that you do live in a small town, kinda makes that inevitable anyways. Its kind of like gilmore girls LoL I wouldn't look too much into it. Its not like you guys are going to start dating straight away or something. Its just a dinner .. and well people are allowed to have dinner.

If things do work out, and you end up dating him, I don't think that it should matter too much. Like I said its a small town, everyone probably ends up dating everyone anyways, since so many people know each other. Just as long as your not doing it to spite your ex, which doesn't sound like the case is.

With that said, its your life and you should do what makes YOU happy. You don't have to live by other people expectations.

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I met my last boyfriend through a friend of my ex husband, they did not hang out they just played golf a few times. Lasted a long time. I am sure your ex will feel uncomfortable at first. But, you are not with him. Don't be shady be honest. The drama will die down soon enough.. and damn is your town that freakin bored that they would gossip about a dinner date? They need a life. Do what you want.. I would not care what the town Mayberry thought of me.