I fell for my best friend. I know the worst mistake possible, but it happened and now I'm totally confused. At first I kept my feelings to myself, but pressure built and I couldn't keep it in any longer, so I confessed. I told him exactly how I felt and guess what happened..... "I don't see us as being anything other than friends." AAAAHHHH!!!! The last words I wanted to hear, and that was after he called my feelings a PROBLEM for him. So, what did I do? I picked up my face and moved on. Still being friends, because no matter what I wanted him as my friend. But suddenly he brings the subject up again. I thought it was long buried and over, but out he comes with do you still feel the same way about me.
Uh, let me think, YES! It's not like the feeling will just disappear. It might weaken, but I know it'll never go away. So now he acts like he wants to start dating, but he never says it. We act like a couple and everything, but not once has he made anything official. We're still JUST FRIENDS. But he doesn't act like my friend. For instance, I can't go to the club without him being one step behind me, if one step(he's usually standing right beside me) that is not how a friend acts. And whenever I don't call him, he flips out, so I missed one day, why are you trippin if we're just friends.
What game is he playing? Because I'm getting tired of it. If he wants to be with me he should just say it. These little hits aren't doing me any good, and I won't wait forever!!!
I agree with Acuzio, you need to tell him that you want to be official or just be friends again, because he needs to make a decision and he knows that you like him, so he can get attention from you and he's getting the best of both worlds right now, a girl who will give him attention, without officially being "taken"
When you first told him your feelings, he probably hadn't seriously considered dating you. Later, after he'd thought it over, he asked if you felt the same way.
Basically, you're acting as his temporary girlfriend. Unless you develop an understanding between each other that you're an exclusive couple, your relationship will remain unclear. It may be time to tell him how you feel again.
Your situation was like mine but reverse. I been best friend with this guy for 11 years. There was always an attraction between us and I kind of knew he liked me in someway. So to make a long story short, he finally came out with it this summer. I wasn't surprise but I did reject him right away...telling him I only can see him as a friend. But again, I wanted to still hang out. But slowly my attraction to him start getting stronger and then one thing lead to another...we made out and all...after that happen though I freaked out and told him I couldn't do it because I know it would work...i think that way because I realize the reason why I only can see him as a friend because knowing the type of person he is...he would not be the kind of guy I want to date (nerdy, flirty, very sociable) just not the guy I though I would want to hook up.
But when I told him that.. the next day I feel so empty and I missed him a lot. That when I realize that I need to give myself the chance to see him as a boyfriend and not just see him as a friend. So I think maybe that is what you guy friend is doing. And you should just pick a day to talk about it. Put everything up front and ask whats between you two. That I end up doing....we just keep on seeing each other and fnally one day I ask are we bf and gf?? and Now we a newly couple!
The best things is talk about it and give each other the space, time and chance to see what else is there beside just freinds...help him see that. I think that is what my guy friend did.
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