So this morning he said to me he loves me, with a comment that he says it not because I wanna hear it, but because he felt like saying. Bu why be distant and a bit off with me, end of the day I didn't do nothing wrong to him. So what's up with him then? Where is the problem?
The problem is you are being too overanalytical. Maybe he had something on his mind. Not everything has to do with you. I'm not trying to be mean I am just stating that there are times we tend to be oversensitive with things that have nothing to do with us. Who is he by the way? Also, if you are so bothered by it talk to him about it.
He is my boyfriend of 3 years, and he is acting lately whery strange, and more and more I become paranoid and insecure, that he might be cheatin or wants to break up with me. - More than a year ago
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Have you tried talking to him about it? - More than a year ago
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The more I try to talk about it the more he gets angry, so I just gave up. I'm in such an emotional state, I just can't do this anymore. I just can't understand two weeks ago he was the most living person I ever known and now so cold and distant. - More than a year ago
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Are there stressful things going on in his life? Do you guys fight a lot besides the fighting over the distance thing? Communication is important and if he's not willing to communicate with you than you may want to re-think this relationship. - More than a year ago
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No we don't argue, we do talk he is not distant in that way, he's not so loving to me anymore, for example. if week ago he used to txt me hi babe have a nice day, love you x. Then now I don't get any txt or if I do they are short, like 2dat just HELLO. - More than a year ago
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What kind of things does he say when he gets mad at you for bringing up the distance thing? - More than a year ago
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He just says he needs time, to figure things out and that I shouldnt worry. But how can I not to worrry? I'm so angry that he leaves me confuesed and guessing............ - More than a year ago
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Oh, ok. Now that's a little different. I would tell him that there are down times in any relationship and that you would really appreciate it if he would communicate with you what is going on in his head so you can work on it together. If he says it's not about you than there could be things stressing him outside of the relationship. If it's been three years I would hope by now you both would be able to talk to each other and support one another. Is anything stressing him out lately? - More than a year ago
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Yes he says its everything work, even me and other stuff. He needs to do some soul searchin.whatever that means - More than a year ago
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When it rains it pours. We all have our down times and as frustrating as it can be try not to take it too personally. He's just a little stressed out and needs some space. Let him know that you are there for support and try not to worry about it too much (it's easier said than done I know). - More than a year ago
Is this the first few times you guys have said I love you? Did you eventually say it back to him that same day? If not, then you probably made him doubt the extent of your feelings for him.
If you feel that for him, say it back. Be cute and say it like how he said it. If that doesn't fix it, then maybe there's something you either don't know about or haven't realized had an actual impact on him. It would probably be better to just ask him straight up at that point than over analyze his actions. Doing that also shows you are honest and open (it dismisses any type of mental gaming going on). If he does love you, I am sure he wants at least honesty in return. Anyway, it sounds like he is just doubting your feelings for him.
I have been together with him for 3 years, and lately things are starting to change, he is becoming more distant and ignorant with me. - More than a year ago
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I agree with the advice given above. - More than a year ago
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