Should the arranged marriage go on?

I'm really curious as to how you got into an arranged marriage with this guy that you have known for two months. As far as I understand (with just about all cultures that have arranged marriages) both families agree on the union, and it doesn't sound like your family was involved at all. Did this guys family say that you were going to marry their son? This really doesn't make sense.

As far as knowing him for 2 months and then getting married and having kids,... I would have to say don't go through with it. I have seen with a few different business clients where something like this happened, and the person just used them for papers. I get the feeling like that is the case here.

If he is really into you,.. then he can put himself through the process of becoming a US citizen without you marrying him. It is very, very difficult, but I personally would feel more comfortable with that, than getting someone their papers. For all you know he is still with that other girl, and is just wanting to get over to the US, then after the 3 years, he will drop you and then bring her over here (it happens).

I would say if you feel any hesitation at all, then that is your gut telling you something very serious and you should pay attention.

Best of luck with whatever you choose.

First of all, I don't understand arranged marriages exactly. I mean if that was the case, why
was he involved with another women that he asked to marry him. Can he void the arrangement? Is the marriage binding in the United States? Looking at facts, well, he was
involved with the person for 9 years, asked her to marry him, he doesn't work, or have a
trade. How does he pay for things? Now, the both are you married, he has only known
you two months!, wants you to have his babies?, needs a green card to here? So if your
mother doesn't like this guy, why were you sent over there in the first place? Arrangement or
not, which I don't feel your mother really believes holds, family, friends, finances. Those
are your three golden rules. Love, that's really last play. We all like the dream and fantasy,
but realistically it is your family, friends, and finances that keep you and make dreams
come true. Sit your mother down for a heart to heart(or on the phone evidentley), her side,
your side. Don't have any babies yet!
I know someone that married a guy, who also needed a green card, turned out to be a cad!
Yes, I know that there are two sided to the story, but he has made a roach look better.
I would say off hand for now, let him stay over seas and prove his true self, for the better
or the worse, so you both know or have a better insight.
Good Luck and Keep the Faith!

Go over there and live with him... because if he is ok with that then he does love you. And after 5 years over there, maybe you could live here. Where is he from by the way?

I don't think it's wise for you to marry him, Because he is love with his ex, His mom controls him (Trust me, I have seen many couples in love ending up divorced because of this).

Above all he doesn't have a job at the age of 28 and doesn't have a college or university degree either which means he is not ready to take responsibility for life. Then he is not the right one to get married to.

I think your mom is right and you shouldn't marry someone who is not ready to take responsibility. Sweetie everything in life happens for a reason, including meeting people. Maybe you were destined to meet him and change they way you see and live your life. I'm sure you deserve better.
GOOD LUCK