Recently I went to my girlfriend's MySpace page. I often do this, and she knows that I know about her page there. She told me about it when we first started dating. She posted it there before we started dating, and never removed it. She did take off the posting on her page that said she's looking for dates, so I know she's not looking for guys there. She keeps in touch with some friends, and goes to music sites, etc. I didn't see it as a problem in our relationship, so I've never asked her to remove her page.
Well, the last time I visited her page, I noticed that a guy had made a comment on one of her photos there. She has a cropped pic on there that shows an old bf with his arm around her. She cropped him out of the photo, but you can still see part of his arm around her. She likes it because its a really good photo of her; and I have no problem with her using it. Anyway, the guy said something like "nice squeeze - I would like to be in his shoes!" Obviously a come-on line! She replied "that's water under the bridge; we used to be together, but now we are just friends." He then closed with the comment "thats a lot better to know."
This was two days ago, and there have been no further comments on the thread of either his page or hers. I am a little disappointed she answered that way, instead of saying something about me, her current boyfriend to shut this guy down. I haven't mentioned it to her, because I don't want her to think I don't trust her. I intend to still go to her page periodically, so I can still see if he continues to pursue her. I do trust her, but it still bugs me that some guy is trying to move in on my girl. Should I just discretely monitor the situation, and confront her only if it continues, or should I say something about it now? Again, I don't want to make her think I don't trust her. What should I do? Should I be concerned at this point? After all, she hasn't cheated, so that's why I hesitate to confront her about it.
Don't mention it to her, Under NO condition, Wait until she mentions it. I don't think she is gonna cheat on you. But C'mmon that's her page and she is free to answer whatever she likes. No need to worry.
If they guy continues to pursue her I don't think you should freak out. She already told him that that's water under the bridge and nothing more. It sounds as if your really controlling. I can understand how you would feel about another going after her but I think she can handle it on he own. Obviously she's not interested so there's no need to question her.
I really don't see the problem. So what if she did not mention you? You are the guy she is with. If the guy hits on her, she knows who she loves. Guys hit on girls everyday. Be proud she is with you. Don't confront her about it you are opening up a can of worms and sounds like you kinda want that. Just drop it.
No, that's what I'm trying to avoid; opening up a can of worms. I don't want to create a problem if there isn't any. Thanks for your advice; I do intend to drop it. - 7 months ago
Don't worry..comments on myspace pages are just comments..and when he sends a comment and he sends her back it doesn't really mean that she is in contact with him..She maybe just didn't talk about you because she doesn't want to tell the whole world about her personal life
And about talking to her I think you could just wait..because I don't know her so I don't know how could she see it(as you said that you don't trust her) but don't worry!!
Well, if he seems good looking, she may have been flirting a little but no intention of going any further than that comment. She was prob just being friendly or sublimely getting back at her ex-boyfriend like telling the world that they are over and friends. Other than that, you have nothing to worry about. I had a similar situation and absolutely nothing untrustworthy was going through my mind. Don't worry, i'm sure she is very loyal to you and does not mean to confuse/bug you.
I'd have to agree with mbeth. She's not cheating, and I can't imagine she's -planning- on cheating with this guy. Trying to "move in on" a woman over Myspace (if that's what this guy was even doing) is really juvenile, and I'm sure that your girlfriend sees this. Just because she didn't mention you in her reply to him doesn't mean she's hiding your existence, and to be frank I think you're being a tiny bit paranoid. I wouldn't worry about it.
I wouldn't take it personally. That guy is probably not even registering on your girl's radar. I wouldn't even worry about it. In fact, I'd take it as a compliment that some guy wants your girl. She doesn't seem to be flirting back, so no sweat.
I don't think it's anything to worry about. If there were problems in your relationship then something like this could be one among many signs of trouble, but in isolation it's not a sign of anything. She's taken down the page indicating that she is looking for dates; seems to me that's the one that matters.
I see two mundane possibilities here. Either she is sharing some, but not all, of her personal information on the site or that she just typed whatever came into her mind without worrying about symbolic ramifications. I think it's more likely to be the latter and that she may be encouraging a little flirting, but that it's not an important thing to her.
Reality is that you can't prevent some guy from trying to move in on your girl. All you can do is be a good man whom she wants to keep around. I read a good comment posted by Acuzio in response to another question a few days ago in which he advised the question asker to not read too much into things, especially things that didn't happen. In this case she didn't mention you, but that doesn't mean she had an intention in doing so. Maybe she was about to when she got interrupted, so she went ahead and logged the comment and went from there?
Like the Eagles said, "Don't let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy."
You might be misinterpreting the language she used... When she said, "we used to be together," she may have been referring to her ex in the picture, not the commenter. Unless you're sure that this other person is her ex, it's probably just some random person who thinks that she's attractive. Plenty of people on MySpace flirt in that way, even if they have no intention of ever meeting each other. Girls receive significantly more of this kind of attention than guys.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
We would go on a walk in a beautiful location. We would have a meaningful conversation, and have a picnic or dinner at a nice casual restaurant. We would then speed the atmosphere up and go to a club or do something entertaining (bowling, dancing, etc.). I would were something dress casual--khaki slacks, a nice button down shirt, etc. It would end with nothing too extraordinary. It depends?!
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
She will know my goals/ambitions, my likes, hobbies, etc. I would be open with her, unless it is too personal. She would know the date went. She would know that I am open and honest.
(Age:Over 45)
When: 7 months ago
