Why would he just vanish?

Be straight up front with him. Next time you contact him and you actually get to talk with him, tell him that you two need to work things out because your relationship depends on it. I know you may not want to hear it but since he was gone for 6 months before, you may have to threaten him a break-up unless he starts being honest with you.

Honestly, this guy isn't worth your time. If he loved you he would be honest with you and not blow you off to the side like that. 6 months and he tries to come back like nothing happened and not much of an apology. He's lucky you waited for him but this time around I would stand up for yourself and not be the one who waits around. Even if he does have a real excuse behind it, the chance of that is slim to nothing. 3 years is long enough to stop holding secrets from each other. You could even assume he is cheating on you but there may be other explanations. Either way, he isn't telling you everything which obviously shows trust issues and you shouldn't tolerate his actions especially after he left you for that long before.


Bottom line, you deserve better. If he did have a reasonable explanation then he would tell you because that's what love consists of, right? Being honest to each other. In fact he would find time in his busy schedule to be with you, not make up little excuses. You deserve better than that, stand up for yourself and show him you aren't going to wait around for him without him telling you the truth about everything. Believe me, this will save you from spending your whole life waiting for this guy when you could be out there finding someone who can love you more and deserves you.

I work in the Law Enforcement field, there are certain fields in law enforcement that could pertain to one having to leave and report for duty. If he works for the government and is in a sensitive field, he may be ordered not to tell you. I am not saying that this is what he does for a living but it could be a possibility. Good luck, if it were me and I couldn't inform my spouse of what was going on, I would follow my orders, discuss nothing but inform her duty calls and I will miss and love her and be home as soon as I can.

Well, why would you put up with it? Don't bother with him and when he comes back to you need to just tell him how it is and if he wants you back, he has to earn your trust. People who just vanish out of a relationship are not connected emotionally to the other person. Get out and have some fun. Let him think about you for awhile. He will.

I have a friend that this happened to her 5 times within a 15 year period. In her case he finally left her the day after her birthday without any explanation. He is living with another girl and is engaged to be married. I am not saying this is your case. However what I am saying that a man that does that to you...does not value you not even as a friend. Do you want a man in your life that every time you see him leave your wondering - am I gonna see him again ? I would just let it go..I know it's hard! Be strong and don't take him back ....who cares why he left! The point is that he does not consider you enough to tell you "hey I am leaving for x amount of time for y reason". I hope everything works out for you!