Guys how would you feel if the girl you love finds comfort in another guy who loves her as well?

I'm actually the rebound guy here... And she's done everything you just described with me previously. I have also felt the other side of this too, with the same girl. Before her and I got together, she was considering going with the other guy. But I talked with her about it and explained that because of my job, I can't be there for her all the time like I used to. She considered my words and was going back to being normal with me. Then the other guy played the depressed and suicidal card and then she starts feeling pity for him. So she said she shouldn't do anything because she doesn't want to push him further. But I convinced her that it was probably a lie and an excuse for her not to be with someone else. She agreed, but didn't tell him we were getting together. So when he found out, he wouldn't leave her alone about it. He was getting extremely sensitive to everything she was saying to him. If she said something that sounded flirty to him, he would tell her to stop and text me if she wants to flirt. That was pissing her off, and she said that he should stop texting her then. He's still alive and well, just complaining every now and then. It's not a matter of blame/fault, it's a matter of maturity. If you feel that someone is ignoring you, talk it out. In my case it helped me get my girl back. If they are ignoring you, they don't care for your feelings and are worthless to you. Just comfort your lover and make sure they're OK. If they need help with anything they can't do themselves, be sure you're right there next to them to help. That's all you can do really.

I'd feel a bit jealous and sad.

There's no good guy or bad guy in this situation: just hurt people. Let's not play the blame game and let's look at the peoples feelings involved and how we can avoid bad situations.

So your guy friend ignored your texts I'm assuming? can you verify this or is it an assumption? if he ignored your texts he's a jerk and not really your friend. End your relationship. If you don't actually know that he ignored you talk to him about it.

So because he didn't answer you your hurt and feel betrayed and unloved. Your also angry. So was your automatic though "if this guy won't talk to me this other guy who cares about me will I'll show him or I'll make him jealous by talking to this other guy'? That's understandable but not wise or mature of you. You probably should have sought comfort from a female friend or family member. Now if he was LITERALLY the ONLY person you could talk to than I that's something else. Though I doubt that there are so many ways to communicate with people nowadays. Either way you seeking comfort is not wrong, but you should have perceived that going to that guy would hurt your other male friend/lover. You did hurt him and he presumably got mad at you. He's completely justified in that, though if he did ignore you than he should have figured out that you would be hurt and maybe go see the other guy.

Synopsis: First guy may be a jerk and hurt you. Probably should dump him/ end the relationship. if he doesn't take your feelings seriously.

you are responsible for your own actions like everyone else and should not have went to the other guy. Though it is understandable it is still not right.

Boy 2 sounds like a nice enough guy you should probably stick with him as long as you don't get him roped into any more drama.

I've made some assumptions based on the info you provided. If they are wrong I didn't mean to offend and please point them out so I can change my advice

I have two different opinions on this. I am not really sure if it is wrong for her to do so.

Hmm you mean like, Kate Winslet and Leonardo Dicaprio? They should get married already. It would be like Titanic 2. Wait they've done revolutionary road...

Purely based on title; I'd feel like she's cheating on me emotionally.

After your story, I'd have mixed feelings... On the one hand, I'd be happy she calmed down.. but on the other hand, I'd be rather annoyed because of the how.

regarding your update; the 2nd guy if he insisted on talking to her or HER if she went to the 2nd guy straight away leaving the boyfriend to wonder if she has this nice backup just waiting for you to slip up... I'd make me feel uneasy because he's just waiting for his chance, just waiting for you to make a single mistake which is bound to happen as lets face it... we are all human.

I quite dislike the way you phrased it...

"love rival" ->Since when is it a contest between more then 2 ppl?
"needs you badly and you failed to be with her" ->Can't be there every moment of the day, I mean... its fine searching for some emotional support but saying he failed you by being human and missing a single text or call.. what the hell

Lastly... I'd be uncomfortable with the 3rd guy if I where dating you, I wouldn't be intimidated or feeling like he was superior.. I'd just be uncomfortable because he's just waiting and knowing that she treats him as a "backup" would just be the end of any relationship then and there.