I ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year. he told me that he loves me but he is still yong and he does not want to break up with me but he needs a break because I said the other nite that I'm not getting any younger and that there is a history of med conditions so by the time I get to be 27-30 yrsold I might not be able to have my own kid. he said he loves me but need time to think cause I'm getting so serious so fast he need time to thnk. he told me e does not want to break up. if he did not break up with me why do I feel so hurt angry and upset. I want to tell him that he is right I should not want to get married by the time I'm 25 all cause of the med condition. that I get tested for it every year so if I have it it will be caught early that way I can still have kids. he calls me 2 day after he said all this to me and asks me how I'm I doing he seens so so concerned about me when I tell him I cried all day he was like I don't want to talk about that now ill call you later and he never did. can you tell me what I can do to save my relationship.
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It sounds like he is just confused. Try explaining to him that you didn;t mean to freak him out by saying what you did, but you see a future with him and want to share it with him. I think what you need to think about is whether you really want to spend the rest of your life with this guy. If it is a definite yes then you should try and come to some sort of agreement with the relationship and where it is going. If you think about it at all, you probably don't want the rest of your life to be spent with him, and should think about moving on. And, from experience, try not to tell them how upset you've been and how you've cried b/c by the sounds of it from the time you told him that, he didn't want to hear about it. (and no guys usually do ) good luck
Give him time and space for a few days. If a week goes by without hearing from him, call or go see him so that he knows you still love him and are just trying to give him space as he requested. He'll either come back, ready for a lifelong commitment (which is what you suggested when you told him about the med condition) or he won't. If he doesn't, let him go. I'd suggest dating older guys in the future if you are really worried about having kids. I don't think guys are really ready for a lifelong commitment until they are at least 25.
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