Hey! I'm in love with my best friend. She knows about my feelings for her! I asked her out three times! she has rejected me all the 3 times! She tells me everything!! But thing is there is something that tells that she definitely likes me! ....but what I don't get is ...why is she rejecting me?
Lately we had this conversation She: "You have to let go! I might cause problems for you in the future." Me: "What? How? & In what way?" She: "You know that this is our last year.. next year the chances for us getting into different colleges are very high! "If" we do get into different colleges, and you still can't stop thinking about me then I'm afraid you're going to have some problems out there and I don't want to be the cause for it in anyway! Please let go of ur feelings for me and let's stay friends! I'm definitely sure that one day your going to come back to me and say that you've fallen in love again and also you deserve someone better! I'm telling you for you own good!" Me: "Hey, alright. How about the fact that I want to be with you irrespective of fact that you think I deserve someone better! I'm not giving up on you!" She: "Enough is Enough..It's high time you do as I say! You Better get the thought out of ur head! I never liked you in that way!"
Here are the other instances that actually made me feel that she likes me a lot!:: *She tells me everything. All of her secrets. We go on talking about each other, the future, dreams for a very long time. Sometimes starts in the night and goes on till next morning without me and her realizing that it's late" *She comes with me everyday for a walk and a bus ride. She gets upset if she couldn't say bye to me because of the crowd in the bus and later calls me up and tells that she's sorry. *She gets a little jealous if some other girl talks to me or if I drop a girl home along the way. *She constantly tries to get my attention. I've witnessed it, so have my other friends. She keeps saying 'hey' over and over again. She talks with me during breaks and we have lunch together!
The two things are: "I Think she really likes me" & "She wants me to let go"
Tell me. What or who do I listen to? My instinct? my heart tells me that she does like me too.. Should I keep pursuing her? and get everything I ever wanted! OR Her? Should I listen to her? and let go of her...
What do you think is right for me to do??
Update: I also feel that she is saying "no" because of the exams that are coming up. These exams are very important to her and I feel that she is not accepting or is refusing to think about all this because of these exams. Am I Right?
10 months ago
Update: I know her really well! She once told me that she never likes to live knowing what will happen. Is she waiting for the exams to get over and then think about all this? Please help me.
10 months ago
Sounds like you fell into the 'Let's Just Be Friends' category, and hard too. This will be a tough one for you, once your a friend it can be VERY hard to move further. Davidsaj has several good points here but one he might have forgotten is that jealousy can stroke a burnt out fire. I'd recommend meeting/seeing other women and let her see/know it. You're gonna have to be strong, confident, and masculine and you're gonna have to lose the NICE GUY routine... trust me, I've been right where you are at. If you want better luck with the ladies learn to be assertive, stand up for yourself, and don't give in to every little demand that ANY girl makes, esp. your 'best friend'. Good luck, friendships can become the best relationships if you can get her attention and be more attractive to her. I hope this helps and if you want to know anything else, hit me up, Kyle
She really likes you as a friend, but it's time to let go of your dreams of having her as a girlfriend.
She doesn't want to date you. She's told you so directly and you didn't listen, and now she has to resort to saying that she isn't good enough for you... Basically, she'll say anything to make you give up. "I never liked you in that way," is a pretty clear statement.
She talks to you, tells you secrets, and gets jealous because the two of you are very good friends. She enjoys your attention, even if she doesn't want to pursue a committed relationship with you.
Her point about college is valid. It's a bad idea to start a relationship just before you move apart from each other. It would be almost guaranteed to fail. There are very few benefits to having a long-distance relationship, especially when one person isn't as interested as the other.
You may like her a lot, but it's time to move on, at least for now.
You are too available to her, and she sees you as a really good friend. Your problem is that she is going off to college and probably wants to meet other guys, without being tied up in a long distance relationship. If she wanted a relationship with you she wouldn't have rejected you.
On the flip side, she enjoys the attention she is getting from you, and the fact that she won't let any other girls talk to you is because she wants to keep you as her own personal esteem booster. Just be friends and don't let her control you, you have every right to talk to other girls, and if she wants to stop that, then she has to make a move on you herself.
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