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Do you think it's wise to get married at a young age?

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SAVANNA (Age:18 to 24)     When: 7 months ago
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(Under the age of 21...) why or why not?

Update: **Just to clarify, I am not planning on getting married anytime soon. I'm actually not even in a relationship at the moment. I would just like to hear others' opinions about this subject because it seems that all of my friends are getting hitched. Thanks!    7 months ago

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Anonymous User (Age:36 to 45)      When: 7 months ago
Not a good idea. In fact, I'd say it's not a good idea for anyone under 25 to get married. Why? Because you still aren't fully mature at that age. Things you think are "fantastic" you will look at later and go "what was I thinking? " look at the people turning 30 with tribal tattoos and tramp stamps as an example.

Unfortunately this goes for taste in people as well. You don't want to get hitched to someone only to realize 5 years later that they're a complete idiot. Wait until you're at least 25, get a handle on who you are first before committing to someone else.

Note: I'm not saying you can't fool around, live with someone whatever, it's just that marriage is legally binding and comes with a whole other level of responsibility.
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lovebird01 (Age:Over 45)      When: 7 months ago
No. I can tell you marriage at a young age is almost doomed to fail! You are usually too immature (but you won't know it) to handle all the problems and responsibilities that come your way. If financial pressure doesn't do you in, then raising a family will.

I really do love being married, but never do it at a young age. Wait as long as you can, then you will enjoy it, and appreciate it.
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
Okay answering again.... My parents have been together since they were 14 they got married at 20 and they're still together and they are 42 I am the youngest of three kids and they are still has strong as they were from the beginning.... I have been with my man since I was 15 and I'm now 19 and we plan on getting married in April... If people want to say things they can but we already go through all that hard stuff... We've lived to together for 3 years we've went the months without seeing each other because of being in different states due to college.. His sister hates me and she's a big problem.... He's going on 23 in august by the way.... I believe that if you really love the person go ahead and marry them but I don't believe in devoice so if you have doubts don't get married... Everyone has their own options and a lot of them are true but a lot of them aren't so right... Just like me I think that if you have a baby past 35 or 40 it's wrong..
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ashley23 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
God NO I am 23 and still finding things out about myself. I think people our age are definitely too young. Can you really say at 21 I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this person? But I'm also totally against marriage in the first place but still 21 is too young. If they really believe they're gonna be together forever then why not wait a few extra years WHAT'S THE RUSH PEOPLE!
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punkofmudd (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
It is not wise to get married at such a young age. It is best to really get to know someone, but most of all, to get to know yourself. I want a long lasting, committed relationship and that is usually when one is older. Also, I want to finish college, go to med school, and get a job. To be ready for marriage and a family, I need to be prepared and that takes time.
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christie20 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
I don't find a problem with it because I believe age is just a number.. I'm 19 and I'm getting married to a really great guy in April.. You just have to make sure you're mature enough for what you're going to do.. If you're not mature enough then I don't believe you should get married at a young age..
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ashley23 I was also with my guy for 4 years and we have a beautiful baby together but needless to say he is now my "ex" But to each there own if you think it will work out maybe you're right. - 7 months ago

 
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Anonymous User (Age:25 to 29)      When: 7 months ago
Let's see, from my experience, no way! But it depends. If you are doing it because your pregnant, no way! If you think you're in love, give it time and I'm talking at least 3 years. If you only want to get married once definitely wait until your in your mid to late twenties! Like the women below say you will change as you get older and you may grow apart instead of with each other and you do want to make sure you're all set on being faithful with that one person and will not regret it later. One more thing, You don't really need the time to be with other guys to be a sexual thing but a learning experience. The more you date and have relationships. The more you learn how to be a good partner and what you really want and deserve in a relationship.

Here's my personal experience:
I got married to my "highschool sweetheart". I began dating him at 14, got pregnant at 16 and married right before I turned 17. He was almost 3 years older than me. We married earlier due to the baby, but we had planned on getting married anyways when we were out of school. Although you'd think a relationship lasting that long already would last, you'd be wrong. Our marriage only lasted 8 months.
Then, I married again at the age of 21, but we rushed into our marriage due to other reasons (this time being together for 1 1/2 years) and after we were married, do to the long distance struggles we had and the fact that we weren't ready, our relationship ended 6 months after the marriage. I also was just recently engaged to a man who is the father of my current child (I'm pregnant). We have been together almost a year (10 months) and I did not rush this into marriage. We planned on waiting. Which thank god I decided that, because he just left me a week ago.

So please be careful!
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christie20 I've been with my boyfriend since I was 15 we had at baby when I was 18 and now i'm 19 we've been together for four years.. We have the money problem already and we're really strong together.. We have a great daughter as well.. He was reaed by a great mom - 7 months ago
Answerer Thanks for the comment, but MY Point being. You are only 19. I know that's hard to hear,but tell me you guys are still going strong and LOVE each other at 25. - 7 months ago

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Sugarcoat (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
No, I think it's better to wait until at least 25 years of age. That way both parties are matured and ready for a lifetime commitment.
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keira (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
No, but not because you have to meet other people first. More because people change so much from the late teens to mid adult hood. You won't be the same person and that causes a lot of relationships to fail.
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Lesae (Age:36 to 45)      When: 7 months ago
Nope, tried it. You need to experience other people first, then if you still feel the same later, get married. As a couple you both need to grow as individuals. So you will be stronger as a couple. I did get the best part of the jerk. My daughter.
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