Well I guess I should not have being surprised but still it gets to me day after day.
Few months ago 4-5 I think I met this girl, things were going great between us. Until she got commitment issue's, then it all went crazy. Things were going bad for a while then it went good again. Then she got commitment issue's again.
After some time it was over, until some Sunday she called me telling me she missed me and that she loved me. Me being a sucker and also madly in love with her still tried it a third time. Things were going great better then ever 2 weeks before new years eve. We spend the night together on new years eve, and things got a bit of hand.
A week or 2 later she told me she had missed her period. In my opinion it was no problem, sure not planned but I was not planning to run away from it. I told her I would take my responsibility for it and would do my best to work something out.
BUT she was not so sure about it she was considering a abortion which I knew was nothing she was for since we talked about it and both of us were against it.
Still after the pregnancy test showed as positive it all started to go bad. Because she had a her mind set on having it removed. Which upset me a bit, she asked me if would support her.
To which I said I was not in favor of doing it and would like to discuss it more before giving her my support. In the end I tried my best to convince her to let the pregnancy continue.
But she was determined to have it removed. To my greatest disappointment, I wanted to support her but I could not do it 100%. The day before she did it we talked and it was obvious she was not sure about it. Again I tried my best to convince her to reconsider but again I failed no matter what I said nothing worked.
Things started to go south the day she had it done. She had seen a echo from it which made her cry, but still she pushed on. When she told me this I would have being unable to continue doing it if I was in her shoes.
This was a bad answer since she completely misunderstood me. She claimed I told her she had no feeling and enjoyed doing it. Which I did not mean.
NOW now things are all messed up she avoids me, she does not answer my calls, she does not reply to any test messages the time she does she says she does not want to talk and that's it. I cannot get into contact with her and I want to be there for her.
Even though I am totally against what she has done, this has not made me love her less. I still love her, but she thinks I will hold it against her.
Everything is messed up I mess her, I love her. But I have no idea what to do to have her open up to me again.
I had one, two 1/2 years ago. We broke up. He didn't talk to me forever (two years). He calls me every day telling me he loves me, I want to believe him, but he totally ran out of my life when we got pregnant. But I had to do it, I was in high school and I had plans. She will come around sooner than later, girls will break before the guy. Just keep on trying to talk to her.
I totally inderstand how you feel. I was pregnantt, I am 11 weeks. When I first told him I told him I was pregnant we talked aboput it and decided on abortion. But that was around christmas. I told him I got it. But then I got scared and I didn't. Now he thinks I'm a liar. I sent him an e-mail because he won't talk to me. I told him that I'm still carrying. But he has a new girlfriend. Told me I was afriad of a relationship with him because I went and got pregnant. Basically its a hard thing to deal with, no matter who you are. The decision changes your life no matter what. Its hard but they will eventually coem around. I know they do. It's just to hard to deal with at this time.
Hey, I am 29 and have had 2 abortions. So, with your situation. You said she cried when she saw the fetus on the screen, well she is feeling guilty for what she had done. So she possibly could be looking for someone to take it out on and that's you.
I had my first abortion when I was 19. I thought I was in love with the guy, but I wasn't. In fact, after I had it done it made me sick to think about him. I didn't answer his calls. I just didn't feel the same. I wasn't mad, or feeling guilty, I just couldn't see being with him again after that. Maybe that is what she is feeling. How do you go on being with someone knowing that you aborted what would have been your child? Its a tough situation. But let me tell you, if she has commitment issues and is treating you bad- she is not the one for you anyway.
Maybe your right, I don't know I would like to know though what it is. i never forced her to abort, I tried convincing her several times not to do it. but for her it was impossible to keep, financial situation, social freedom, and a young relationship - 8 months ago
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