What to do when you like someone, when you shouldn't??

Don't just let thngs happen. Make up your mind now to either break up with your fiance, or stop seeing his friend.

Someone will be hurt either way, so thnik carefully and make sure this other man is also a good man and not just a good talker, or a flashy dresser...

Please don't go through with the wedding until this is resolved. It would be extremely unfair to your fiance. If you're having feelings like this already then I'm willing to bet that you should break it off with him being even thinking about anybody else. It'll hurt both of you more in the long run if you go through with this wedding and then regret it.

The one thing that comes to mind is why do you find his friend as attractive? If he is coming on to you why would you as a person want a man that would betray his friend? In these types of situations it is paramount to ignore intense emotion and to think clearly. It is also important to note if you leave you fiance for his friend he probably would not forgive you. How would you feel if he left you for one of your friends? If a relationship did start between you and the friend how stable would it be really? The friend would probably become controlling latter on because you left your current man for him what is to stop you from doing it again, to him this time? Besides this really doesn't sound like love to me it sounds like your lusting for the friend. You can't build a building on water it will sink right? Emotions are fluid, peaking dipping and never stationary, like water and a marriage must have a solid foundation like the building. A relationship with emotion as a foundation will likely go under then where will you be? My advice is to stay who your with and it sounds like he really cares about you. With the friend avoid situations that would tempt you, like being alone with him, establish barriers between the friend and you and be content with what you have already some people would give anything for what you have with your feiance.

The only advice I can give is this. If you feel that you can do better, one day you will meet the best guy you can dream of, but you will have a pesky ring on your finger. Don't get married unless you can't imagine ever loving/caring/lusting for anyone else ever again. You feel true love in every bit of you. It permiates your person and becomes so much a part of you that no other love can replace it. If your fiance isn't that to you, don't get married. It will be a better decisio for both of you.

Stop liking them. No, I'm not being facetious. We can't help our feelings but we can sure control ourselves on acting on them. If you don't think you can control yourself, or he won't control himself and essentially betray a friend, then remove yourself from the situation. Tell him it's not appropriate to be with him alone. The power and the choice is in your hands. It's up to you.

If you don't love your fiance anymore, give him the proper respect that he deserves~ tell him~
but be sure that its something that will make you happy, because if its not, then its not worth doing~ It will not be a good sight when he's already your husband but your not happy with him, and then you keep making out with his friend. please just don't take it that far before you realize that what your doing is breaking a man~ If you don't love him anymore, then let him go, even if it will hurt him, tell him the truth and how you feel and let him go, because he deserves more~

its definitely not love. because if you really loved your fiance you wouldn't fall for another guy. true love is monogamous. so the solution is to just end the engagement and break up, tell him the truth that you have feelings for someone else and you want him to be happy.

im gonna be blunt with you though, and tell you my opinions:
#1.) the fiance's friend...do you actually trust him? is he really close to your fiance? because if he is, why would he flirt with his bro's girl (aka you?) he obviously led you on and spent time with you and made you fall for him, if he was really a good bud to your fiance, or a good person, he would keep bro code and stay the hell away from someone else's girl. if you get with him, just realize he will always have the titles of a homewrecker and unfaithful friend and an opportunist. all three are ugly things to be known by.

#2.) obviously their friendship will be ruined. you came between two bro's.

#3.) if you do get with this friend guy, do you think you will marry him or will the attraction last forever? is it just lust now, sexual tension, or is there more to it? may be the lust will fade...and you will always look back at your fiance and see what a great guy you lost...it's a possibility.

#4.) if you dump your fiance for this new friend guy...will you be okay with your now ex-fiance dating other girls and even possibly falling in love with a new girl? will you be jealous? will you try to get him back and be possessive?

these are some things you should think about. and ask yourself. only you know the answer. but either way I still think honesty is the answer here, and your fiance should know regardless. I don't think your engagement will last though. and you can't hide this forever unless you wanna go through with the marriage and set yourself up for divorce. when you fall for someone else, its a clear sign you're NOT IN LOVE, and that you are unfaithful, and the trust is broken, and its a sign of selfishness + lust + greed. I think you should break up and be honest with yourself.