Guys and girls was I wrong to do this?

Assume puts an ass between You and ME.

Yes you are wrong. You're a controlling suspicious b*** and should be slapped down for even thinking like that. If you can't even answer a simple spelling question from your hubby without assuming that he is out to hurt you and cheat on you - then you do not deserve the man. You should be alone with yourself - that way you will never have to interact with other people.

well I would ask who he was sending darling to, but not accusingly just sort of joking.I would expect her to answer and then drop it. If her answer sounded plausible. If I thought she was cheating before I would look into it some more though. Like if she did it before or I heard something from a friend.

I think if you were accusatory you may have handled it wrong.

On another note a girl I was dating would hopefully know how to spell "darling" lol jk.

Not at all - Any person in a relationship would ask who are you sending that to..

Um, yeah, if my wife called one of her cousins "darling" or "sweetie" or in her language "qin ai de", I would be like WTF?
Not saying it's not possible, but I never heard that.

I think if he was texting a girl and calling her Darling, and he asked you how to spell it, he would be the dumbest guy on the planet.

The fact that you thought this was possible, even for a minute, means you're either one of the most paranoid people around, or you have zero faith in his intelligence. In other words, you think he really is that dumb.

Either way, it doesn't say much about you as a girlfriend.

If I was him, and you asked me about something like that, I'd smack you across the head and tell you to cop on to your dumb self.

No I don't think you where unfair to question him, it just depends on how. If you asked calmly, then fine. If you completely went off, crying, screaming and swearing...then maybe you overreacted ;)

If he had anything to hide, he wouldn't have asked you to spell it. But it's no biggie that you've asked.