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Would you use mind games to get someone to fall in love with you?

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Anonymous User (Age:25 to 29)     When: 7 months ago
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few days ago my boyfriend revealed that he used mind games to get me to fall for him. He said that men do not get "hot women" by being nice because everyone crawls up attractive women's ass trying to be overly nice to them.
He also said that's why he did not comment on my looks and that's why he wasn't overly nice, he just acted like a friend because he knew I would get bored and turn away and apparently "hot" girls needs to be tamed.

I think this shows a bad side of him, what do you guys think


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    Anonymous User
    7 months ago
    I think your boyfriend is right. I've tried all sorts of methods on attractive girls, and being overly nice or complementing them on their looks generally led nowhere. Pretending not to care too much works. If a girl is hot and she knows it, worshiping her or being overly nice will blow up in your face. Hot girls do need to be tamed more often than not. I speak from experience. The hot girl doesn't think this in her mind, but she doesn't respond in real life to guys being nice. A guy that is nice to a hot girl basically just triggers her emotions to think he's only with her because of the looks. If you don't fawn over her hotness, she'll be more likely to take to your advances and chase you back. The very fact that your boyfriend won you over is proof of that, as are the hot girls I've dated as well. Sorry, but you do need a bit of taming. You're not like a normal woman.

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    • Answerer
      7 months ago
      Yup, you do.
    • Question Asker
      7 months ago
      well, we learn something everyday :). LOL
    • Answerer
      7 months ago
      Exactly my point. Girls don't trust men who are too nice. Better to error on the side of being a bit aloof and not doting on you hand and foot. One of the most beautiful girls I've ever dated I nearly completely ignored until she threw herself at me. Being aloof as a guy, especially in the beginning stages, is crucial with hot women.
    • Question Asker
      7 months ago
      u know guys said this to me years ago and I said no that's rubbish but it actually worked. I really hate when guys are overly nice, there was this guy before my boyfriend, kept buying me flowers and asking me out and stuff and it annoyed me he was just trying too hard. When I started talking to my boyfriend he was more like a friend and talked to me like I am a guy friend
  • Konnour
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    7 months ago
    You can only get someone to hate you that way, or at best to confuse.

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    7 months ago
    I don't think that shows a bad side to him. That is the way to get some pretty women. If a guy truly has that nonchalant personality then it is even more effective.

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  • kambo_trick3y
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    7 months ago
    I don't personally believe in it but, you also can't ignore the fact that, apparently, it worked on you didn't it?

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    • Question Asker
      7 months ago
      true
    • Answerer
      7 months ago
      If you ask me, it raises a red flag for him and also you. You're gonna have to re-evaluate what kind of guy you are with, but you also need to re-evaluate what kind of girl YOU are for this kind of immature high school sh*t to work on you.
    • Question Asker
      7 months ago
      i guess it does but it also raises a red flag for me. what other games is he going to play? and yes it did work. he is not hot so he would have never caught my eye, yet I want no one else, despite his jealous attitude
    • Answerer
      7 months ago
      Well, I'm speaking as an idealist. I don't believe guys should act differently than themselves. But then again, I also believe people shouldn't carry guns. My ideals are NOT reality. Life is unfair, the game of romance is unfair, and as much as I don't like it, low and behold, I am reading the question posted by a girl proving that on SOME level, "playing the game" works.
    • Question Asker
      7 months ago
      lol I don't know who downvted you
    • Answerer
      7 months ago
      Why the F*** did I just get a vote down? When I disagreed with the guy?
    • Answerer
      7 months ago
      Don't get me wrong, I don't agree with him. I don't. In fact, you're doing more than just lying to the girl you are pursuing, you are lying to yourself, your TRUE nature, by creating facades and not acting like yourself. But at the same time, just because I don't like something, doesn't mean I will ignore it. He played the game, and it worked on you.
    • 7 months ago
      It could have. or it could have made her like him more. you don't KNOW how it would have gone any other way. either better or worse. you don't know.
    • Question Asker
      7 months ago
      ye it did work. I was wondering sometimes too, asking myself, does he think I am pretty? he doesn't make any comments. He was nonchalant the entire time. yikes he played me :p
    • Answerer
      7 months ago
      On the same hand, it could have made her not notice him, or even be attracted to him. SOMETHING would have changed. The only certainty that we DO have, is that it WORKED, at least on her.
    • 7 months ago
      you dot know how it wouldve been of he had been honest/ genuine. she may have liked him more. sooner.
 

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  • toulouse
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    7 months ago
    i don't think not being overly nice is a game. it is appropriate when you are just getting to know them to not be up their ass. he I presuposing kiss ass is a normal state of being and he deviated from i. he just saying you intimidated him. he using mind games to give himself the illusion of power you scared him that's all. he's implying you're his bitch because he fears oure desirability to other men.

    i definitely think this is not a good side of him. but if he is really bigoted in this way. you must have noticed other negative behavior patterns.or its not important to u. I can't imagine he doesn't act like an a**hole in other ways. to hold that kind of philosophy on women requires a prickish disposition.

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    • Question Asker
      7 months ago
      well he does a**hole ish ways that gets under my skin like his jealousy and his need to control me. To be honest though, I would normally walk away but gosh, these men are in terrible conditions. I don't what is going on. lot's of perverts who are into unusual sexual acts I am not into. weird attitudes, needy, creepy, I prefer to stick with him. but yes he has douche tendencies
 
   
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